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writes: it's been a month now since my girlfriend left me and i really miss her and love her with all my heart.we brought our first house together last august things seemed to be going ok i mean we had our differences once in a while but who doesn't, then out of the blue she walked out saying that she hasn't been happy for a while and feels she needs to be herself and have some space but says she can't see us getting back together. being together for seven years and engaged for two means that my love for her is out of this world and i can't believe she can fall out of love with me please help me i need advice on how to get her back and for anybody who will tell me to move on don't bother i just want her back i love her so much.
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reader, kev26 +, writes (10 January 2007):
kev26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy ex phoned me today to tell me she is seeing someone else her best mates cousin,she said she wanted to tell me before i found out from someone else which i sort of respect, but i don't know how to take it because she said only a couple of weeks ago that she wasn't looking for anyone else and just wanted to be on her own someone help please do i keep hope or move on i love her so much and want to get her back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): I don't think it is very likely that she is dating someone else at all(!!)
I really feel for you, my friend is in a similar situation to what your girlfriend is now. They were together for many years, very happy together. They moved in together and then, out of the blue, my friend got a bit panic'y and started going out lots, wanting to be "free". The girl, on the other hand, loved living with the person she loved the most and was ready to settle down.
I really think this is going to involve a lot of time, to be honest. I think you're going to have to be strong and just see how things go. You've obviously had an amazing relationship with this girl so far, however, if it does turn out that she wants to be herself, and have space, and that means your relationship becomes a part of her past, then you need to eventually see that she just wasn't the right girl for you at that particular time in each of your life. I know it's difficult, but I know you can get through it eventually. On the other hand though, if you allow her to have as much distance as she wants without pressuring her, perhaps she will quickly miss what you guys have together.
I hope things work out for the best for you, give it time, things will become more clear and easier. All the best..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): I think it's very likely that she is dating someone else. She has probably felt that you didn't give her enough attention for a long time. Have things been very slow in the bedroom? I would guess the hard truth is that she is with someone else. Best to ask her about this.
Good luck. I would suggest not saying anything while you're angry. There's always hope.
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