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writes:Its been an entire month till i touched his hand, kissed him mouth and looked into his eyes. I need help, its like I cant function without him. What do i do? Okay it all started;I was in maths bored as usuasl when (lets call him, Noah) moved next to me. He made life so bright, he made stupid thing become halarious. I dont know much at this stage, but i know this. it wasnt love at first sight, there was no sparks. Everyone knows that sparks cause fires and fires burn. We were just to people, inocently falling head over heals. We became friends very quickly, he made maths so much fun. We had so much in common. He likes music, I like music. He likes films, I like films. But it was more than that it was like deep down something just clicked. I think he felt the same, the way he looked at me, no-ones ever looked at me like that. He told me he was in a band, asked me to come see the reherse. I saw them play a few times. Me and Noah became bestfriends. We went to the movies together and hung out after school. Then his band members made up this funny joke that me and a limited group of other girls were to be their Gropies, its not as bad as it sounds. We dont actually have sex with them, they can just touch us up and and kiss us. Thats how me and Noah started kissing. but he got really protective when the others kissed me. And he started saying i was perfect and he doesnt understand how someone could look like me. He made me feel so good about myself. Then there was this time when we were on the field, just us. Me and and him. and he was playing with my hair, for some reason. He love the smell of my hair. Then just randomly he told me i was beautiful. so i sat up and look at him. he just dives in for a kiss. Thats how the relationship started. Every thing was amazing for about two months. I think we were in love, i had to literally stop my mind from thinking about him. Then because he was spending too much time with me the band members were getting really pissed off. then after a week of them naggin he quited them band!! then later he wouldnt even look at me, he wouldnt talk to me. When ever i was around he wouldnt draw attention to himself. Pretending he wasnt there. Then i got an email, saying i cant date anyone right now, not while im under soo much pressure. its been a month since then. We dont talk, we dont laugh and and its like WE never even happened. I miss him soo much because he wasnt just my boyfriend he was my bestfriend too. we'd talk about stuff i've never spoke about to anyone. No i just feel alone. What do i do? I cant breathe? I cant speak? I cant eat. I cant sleep. WHAT DO I DO please help me, please. I miss him soo much. Have you ever felt that way? is there something wrong with me? (please be nice :D) thanks xx
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 I heard that q, you old buzzard....
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (3 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the question How could hurting be good? Hahaa I will :D x
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI sort of do have people to talk to, like my friends. But to be honest, they dont really care. I'm old news. They thinks he's just another guy, well he's not. He's Noah. The guy I told my problems, shared my lips with. The guy I was fully prepared to have sex with. Sometimes i actually someone could just whip me away from the real world so that i could just forget about him :/ x
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour both soo sweet :) I cant believe there are people like you out that are so caring. But, its my fault. All my fault. I shouldnt of taken him away from his band, i didnt mean too. I just want him to be happy, but i really thought that was with me. x
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (2 June 2010):
There now, see? q's a smart old buzzard, so he knows the deal, get it in gear, girl. There's a line forming!
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (2 June 2010):
Please do, Poster. I believe you, it's easier said than done. But really, what are your options? You can't just curl up and die of starvation or simply not breathe. These are NOT options. Whatever it takes YOU MUST pull yourself through this to the other side. If you are indeed, suffering this paralysis, then you must seek help right away. Your parents, your doctor, a school guidance counselor, anyone who can point you in the right direction. If you genuinely feel as though you can't pull through, then please ask for help from someone near you. There really is light at the end of this tunnel, I can guarantee you that, sweetie. It's just dark right now is all. It's always darkest before the dawn, remember that. Pull yourself through this, pull hard, ask for help to do it. You'll get through this. C'mon, I'm putting faith in you to do it.
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan I ask how old you are? Or is there like some sorta law stating you cant say it? x
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAwww :) Thats sweet. Im sure someone does. x
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMale reeder. Why is he so lucky? x
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reader, LovePrevails +, writes (2 June 2010):
LovePrevails is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAwww, thank you BunnyTee. I will update you if anything happens. But its not as easy as you say. I cant function. I cant eat. I cant think. I dont know what to do with myself. I cant even go to school anymore, I know its stupid. Maybe it is. I have so many ambitions in life but now it seems like nothings more important than Noah. I scare myself. Its like every song on the radio reminds me of him, Tulips remind me of him. Even ice- cream. Every stupid thing in life reminds me of the memories we shared :/ I dont think I'll ever be over him.
Thanls again for the words of wisdom x
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (2 June 2010):
Sweetie, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You've had someone touch your life, deeply. Now he's not there and you miss him. You "connected" with someone. And it feels like it never really happened at all. It's a very tough thing to get through. Even when you're much older, it's still very tough.
He said he needs to concentrate on other matters now. Perhaps he has a few tough things to sort out himself. It's best to respect that request.
Thing is you need to take care of you in the meantime.
Though it's hard, you CAN get through this rough patch. Your life isn't over although it may seem that way right now. It's not. It's a rough stretch, they're all over the place. In between those rough stretches are smooth sailing just like you had before. It'll happen again and again throughout your whole life. You CAN breath. Else you wouldn't be here posting.
What do you like to do? You should pick something you like and go practice being really good at it. Put yourself into it hard. Are there any of your friends that you need to re-connect with? Does the dog need to be walked? Are there flowers in the garden that need to be smelled? Do you need a really good, hard run to vent some frustrations? Think about the other things that make up your life. People you love, others you like. Any maintenance you should do in those relationships? Invest in your own life, make it as beautiful as possible. You will come out the other side and you'll have every reason on the planet to be happy about it!
If all else fails, try a swan dive into a container of chocolate ice cream, but try to leave that until you're older. Let me know how well you're doing!
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reader, i love louisa! +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Hi,
You sound really nice and it sound like you really like thid guy, Maybe you should talk to and see wat's goin on. Maybe he feels the same way, Even if its not in person, Maybe over facebook or over msn. Mabye he wants to talk to you but maybe he dont have the courage, Maybe he needs you to make the first move.
Good luck!
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