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writes:Hi my name is Jackie. I used to date a guy who i really really liked last year. But, he ended up dumping me when i loved him. Because, we had too many fights and such but, there were times when we were alright. But, when we weren't going out anymore we still hung out i still messed with him because i just liked him too much. But, there was one time when i messed with him and i thought i was pregnant because i didn't end up getting my period for a month. We were both scared and we weren't dating. But,after i found out i wasn't pregnant things were still going good. We still hung out and so on. But, i did hang out with him again just last month in feb. like at the end of it. And i wanted to tell him something important i told him i'll always care for him as a friend and he'll always be in my heart no matter what and if he needed someone to talk to i'll always be here for him. and be by his side Then the day after we hung out we were texting each other back and forth through a cell phone and i thought he didn't care to what i had to say to him. but, i guess he did care. But, now all of a sudden he's not talking to me anymore. i do not know why?! i texted him through the phone and asked him what did i do wrong and he didn't ans. me. and hasn't been talking to me but, I haven't been texting him or anything because i don't want to keep on doing that when i was always the one who ran to him and stuff. I tried so hard to be nice to him i really do love him but, i don't know what's wrong with him he can't open his eyes I gave everything up only to him. i even wrote a 3 page note to him the day after he broke up with me explaining how i felt about him and i'm probably the only girl that will ever care and love for him like the way i do but, i don't think he has a girlfriend because he said he didn't want one idk........please help i still want him in my life.:( idk what to do anymore i tried everything i could possibly do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim starting to think the only reason why hes not talking to me.....is that if he gave me something. because i do not know who he screws he ALWAYS talked to me all the time NOW all of a sudden he's not it's weird. & i didn't get checked
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You's for making me realize it. He's no good. at all He's one of them guys that want to be chased and so on. One of the one's that wants the girl to talk to him not him talking to the girl. But, honestly he's nothing to look at i was the prettiest girl he ever got. He only had 3 girlfriend's in his life and i was the 3rd one. But, if he wants to throw me away after everything i did for him chased him and whatever then fine let it be and i'm not doing it anymore i'm nobody's fool. i got used enough by him. but, honestly he never had respect for me since day one. He went and said all these lies to everyone. he thinks he has respect and he don't he puts acts on. and i never messed with him until after we broke up. I don't know why i did i wish i never did and i wish i never talked to him after he broke up with me but, i made a mistake. never again.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Hi Jackie,
This is very hard on you as you you have really fallen for this guy. But you are throwing yourself at him and it is probably pushing him away i also think you are coming on a bit strong emotionally with him. He knows how you feel about him and he is making it very clear to you that he doesnt feel the same. Frankly i think he was only using you. I know this is hard to hear and its probably not the sort of answer you are looking for but you have to face facts here before you drive yourself insane. You need to stop texting him and get on with your life.
Im sorry to be so blunt with you but you need to see this its just not going to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): OK, you are not going to like what I have to say, but here it is. This man has been using you for sex, you have not asked for anything from him in the way of a commitment, and you have put up with him treating you like a sex object or a doormat, most likely because you are addicted to him sexually, it happens.
Here is the thing, he has lost respect for you. He does not have to lift a finger to keep you around, and you are always there like a bad penny. In your mind you are loving him, doing everything you can to show him you care like writing him a 3 page letter expressing your feelings, when he has given you nothing in the way of a a real relationship. Problem is, it is human nature to value what you have to work for, to want what you cannot have, and you have given it up without a fight it sounds like to me.
My advice would be to have nothing to do with him anymore. You cannot convince someone else to have feelings for you or to return your feelings in kind.
If you become unavailable and he wants to look you up, then be damn hard to get ahold of, let him look for you...and if you let him back in to your life and heart set some paramaters for your relationship, like you expect exclusivity, anything else after this much time has passed is not worth you time and love and effort. You deserve more than you have settled for, so don't settle.
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