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anonymous
writes:Hi,So i had a friend with benefits, for two years. Before that we were friends and through the friend with benefits, we were really good friends, even on a holiday together and so on. Last summer, both of us had a relationship, but we still slept together, we have something between us that just cannot stop us, its strange. So, i break up with my bf in general, and he stays with his gf, who was fine, even though now she is nuts, she is being horrible. Anyways, in october I told me i hwant to end it, i feel sorry for his girlfriend, i dont wanna be in-between them and it would be horrible if she found out. And of course she finds out haha, but she doesnt know we slept. He was keen to keep it on going, but i didnt want to. So yesterday, after 3,4 months I see him. He is fighting constantly with his gf, he tells me about it. And now since we are friends we spoke about everything in general, very relaxed, not tense and joked around. But we were still hugging, laying together, but still nothing happened. What do you advise me to do? ANything specific? And what does this suggests? THanks. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2014): He is using you and does not see you as relationship material. That's what you need to accept and move on. Harsh but the truth.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (9 May 2014):
 Sorry, but this suggests that you are a cheater and so is he. You don't carry on sleeping with people while you're in a relationship. If you can't honor the person you've committed to, then stay away from this guy. You're being used, and used up, and your good looks will fade away because time does that to everyone, and you're wasting time. We only have so much, and it's more valuable than money, but people flush it down the toilet because they are weak.
And I hate to say this, because it's trendy for everyone to celebrate "strong" women, but you are a weak woman, giving your body to a guy who doesn't want you, cheating on men who DO want you, and you are led by emotions without the slightest bit of self-control or moral compass.
This FWB - watch how he treats women. Cheating on his girlfriend, having sex with you at will but not wanting you, what do you see in him?? "I love him" can't be true, because there is nothing to love. It's your bonding chemicals that override reason here, and it's time to consider this guy dead to you once and for all, or else you'll be 30, 40, 50 years old and alone because you can't control yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2014): Forget it - I've been there - sex may be great but real relationships are about much more. Too much baggage to make it work. Move on for good.
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