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anonymous
writes:My fiance and i split nearly 2 weeks ago he sed he had to go and sort his head out he did it wen i was away the last night we spent together he sed he loved me and still wants to be with me all e did was kiss and cuddle me all the time. e went and his mum sed it was over then she sed that would i move in eith him 30 miles from my home town but i disagreed. But this saturday night e went out, then sunday i rung his mum to say that i would move all that way. then i found out today he has a new girlfriend, how can e kiss and cuddle another lass this soon after we finished, i have had an arguement with his mum cos e had a crap childhood and she was pulling my family down. while i was with him i gained weight but e went from a 32" waist to a 40" and i went from a 14 to a 16/18 and his mum has been saying im a fat lump of lard and things and that his new girlfriend is slim and pretty and they all like her yet he still hasnt told me himself. i spoke to this lad and he sed that since we split he is depressive and he doesnt seem bothered about the new girl really. but his mum sed he pawned his engagement ring the day e left. do ya think that e is just with her on the rebound and has e not talked to me himself since he left cos e is scared he will get upset hearing my voice, why has e got a new girlfriend so quick do ya think e is really over me, we were together 3 years and he lived with me and my mum, and will e b back.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 hi.
I think that you are asking yourself the wrong question,you should be asking why should i be taking this two timing engagement ring seller back, you must be a real glutton for punishment, first he wants you to end the relationship with your family, then he want to move you 30 miles away, then he tells you he wants space, he left your home when your back was turned, if i remember correctly then he would not call you, then his mother told you he had finished with you, and what did he do when he moved , went straight in to the arms of another woman, i am sorry but your going to have to wake up, by reading all the letters you have sent in, and you still cannot see that he has used you, made a fool of you, cheated on you, and on top of all these thing you still want him back, sorry dont think hes coming back, when hes had enough of his new girlfriend, then he will do the same again, he will get engagement ring, sell the ring and move in with some one else, then she will be on her own, he is showing classic sighs of not being a mature adult, he firstly wants one thing, then when he gets that, he is not happy, then he moves on, he will do this for the rest of his life,and you will be dragged down with him, maybe to resolve your problems, you should see a councilor because the way you are going, you are destroying yourself over a person who feels nothing for you,please for your own sake move on.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 I don't have enough information to haven any idea if he'll be back or not. I would recommend you start working on yourself and begin moving on. It sounds like his mom is a bit more in his life and his decisions than she should be. She puts your family down? Calls you names? What kind of person would she be if you were married?
This arguing with the mom needs to stop. If he really had a bad childhood, what gives her any right to judge your family. When she puts your family down I'd ask her if putting your family down makes her feel better about her own inadequate job in raising her son. If she calls you fat, remind her (in a sexy voice) that for the time you were together he seemed to really enjoy every inch and every pound you had to offer.
I want you to know. Slim is not always beautiful. I know many women who are a bit larger that are very beautiful women, and I think loosing their weight would make them actually look worse, instead of better.
Like I said, start moving yourself forward. As long as his mother is involved, I think any relationship with him would be a difficult one.
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