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writes: I have been friends with this guy for over 3 years. We met through Facebook and have spoken through chat programs as well as over the phone since then. If one person was single, the other would be in a relationship, meeting up didn't seem "right" since we each have flirted and have admitted to being attracted to one another. Living in California was rough and moving to another state for financial reasons made sense. We decided to meet in person (both single for the first time) before I left. We had an amazing time together, stayed together for almost 24 hours talking, singing at the top of our lungs and listening to music. We both admitted to having a crush on each other a few days later. He wrote to me and explained that he didn't want me to leave while I was in the airport. Not much I could do then but explain to him that the move wasn't forever. Once in another state, I wasn't able to find work anad I started to become homesick. I told him that I may go back to California. He didn't say much.. didn't make me feel welcomed back much at all. A few days later I had gone out with a few friends for drinks, text messaged him that I missed speaking with him, wondered why I hadn't heard from him.. also explained that I still liked him. He told me that I hadn't been online much, told me that he liked me a lot, then vanished. 2 days later I asked him a legal work question, no response. Everytime I sign back onto chat, he's either never on or doesn't message me. I don't understand...
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reader, PM  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Physical distance has a tendency to create emotional distance. Unless two people are already in a fairly stable relationship, distance rarely makes the heart grow fonder. More often than not, if a solid relationship isn't already in place, moving out of the same city as the person you like just means that whatever you had with that person will fade into the background until you see them again.
The short answer is, you're not in a relationship with him and you're not in the same city as him. That means that whatever feelings he has for you are not going to be what they were when you were spending time together. If you do see him again, then those feelings may flare up again for both of you, but until you do, it's likely that you will just drift farther apart.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I would hazard to guess that he has probably just moved on and no longer 'likes' you in the same way.
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