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writes:Alright so I'm wondering what's going on here, it's probably nothing, but I am a bit curious none the less so any input is apprectiated.In the summer I hooked up with this girl and we went on a couple dates, things went well (or at least I thought so), and all of a sudden she just cut me off and stopped talking to me, wouldn't answer her phone or texts, so I gave up after a few days of that.I msg'd her on the computer about a month after that and she instantly changed her status to being away, so I got the point.Anyways she has a boyfriend now, and the other day her best frend (who I've never met) added me to facebook and msn. So I said hey to her, she said hi, and then she said she had to go but she would talk to me later and signed off right away.I thought that was pretty weird, the girl I went on the dates with is known for starting trouble with people, as is her friend, so I was wondering if anyone might have some ideas as to why her friend would want to contact me out of the blue months since I even talked to Julie(The girl I went on the dates with)...Thanks a bunch,-J
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reader, PM +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Without knowing more about the details of your situation, my interpretation of it would be that these are simply women who used to and want attention. You say that they're known for causing trouble, which to me says that they enjoy being the centre of attention and they enjoy the drama that comes from creating conflict.
The first girl likely decided to go out with you because there was something about your attention that she found desirable, but what likely happened (again this is all speculation) is that she felt that you were giving your attention away too freely and that she felt is was too easy to get it. The fact that you kept messaging her after she ex-communicated your seems to support this. If she felt your time was valuable, this likely would not have happened.
The second girl, in my opinion, is looking to either do the same thing the first girl did to you or is partially spying on you for the first girl. It's also possible that she might be a great person, but seeing you describe her as a troublemaker makes that possibility seem less likely.
Sadly, without more details, all this is simply a gut reaction to the situation, that's not much more than an educated guess.
Hope it helps.
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