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writes:High school-juniorMale-16Me and this girl have silently liked each other for almost 2 years now, but we didn't tell each other how we felt until a few months ago. We decided that this is something we both want (a relationship) but we want to wait until next year when we both mature and get approval from both of our parents. We love spending time with each other, even before we told each other we liked each other and we want the relationship for the right reasons. My biggest problem is she is one of those girls who can catch any guy's eye because she is so pretty and beautiful. I just don't want some random guy to sweep in and take her from me. "How do I keep her when she isn't officially mine?" Next, I try to start initiating light physical contact (hugs, cuddling, etc.) And she seems to like it but then she gets mad a day or two later and says "we are just friends right now so we should probably act like that." What do I do or say? How should I act then? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 February 2013):
 What's the prob then ? If she must / needs / wants to wait until 17 before she dates, ... that applies to you same as to any other guy. She won't date ,kiss, etc.etc you- and she won't date,kiss, etc.etc other guys. She won't be officially yours, and she won't be officially anybody else's , no ?
Decide- either you wait, or you don't.
If you wait, you WAIT , and hang out as FRIENDS. I think she is right cutting the hugs and cuddles and touchy-feely stuff, since probably she does not go around being all touchy feely with her female friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): We want to wait becuase we know that we are still immature being only 16 and we also want both my and her parents to be ok with us dating and seeing each other a lot. But the main reason we are waiting is so that we both can have time to mature and take each step forward cautiously and slowly so we don't accidentally mess up
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2013):
 Sounds to me like an excuse...
what do you two think will change in a year?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): We want to wait becuase we know that we are still immature being only 16 and we also want both my and her parents to be ok with us dating and seeing each other a lot. But the main reason we are waiting is so that we both can have time to mature and take each step forward cautiously and slowly so we don't accidentally mess up
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): Yoy need to talk to her about exactly where you are right now and wjere the lines are. And apart from that all you can do is spend time getting to know eachother and spending time together. But the best way to prevent someone from taking her is to be with her if she wants to too becaeuse it seems lije you both like eachother and have good intentions so why not just go for it.
Hope this helps.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2013):
are you not permitted to date till you are 17? is she not permitted to date till 17?
if you are both PERMITTED to date then why wait?
in addition what do you think changes when you date?
or is this just about sex?
because if you think the only thing that changes a relationship is sex... well then if you both are permitted to date... do so... just keep sex off the table.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): We will not be looking for a different "special someone". We only want each other
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