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writes:Found out my boyfriend of 4 years is thinking about getting back together with his ex-wife. He does not know that I know this...what to do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2013):
 IF he's actually thinking about it seriously, then what I would recommend is that you step aside now to let him be alone and have clarity of thought.
And you need to tell him why... "fred, I know you are thinking about getting back with Wilma... betty told me so and to be honest, I love you so much I want you to be able to make a decision with a clear head"
I'm not sure how you found out and he doesn't know about it since this should have been something he talked to you about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): I am not sure how you know this for a fact but if you are confident that he is considering his ex, why are you waiting for him to dump you. If he truely loved you that option of the ex would not even come up.
Dump him as it makes the healing process easier. But my advise is subject to you knowing for sure that he is considering the ex. Alternatively you ask foor space and this allows him to miss u and want you, no sleeping or contacting him, because right now he has you and the ex looks like the ice cream that he cant have.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 February 2013):
 Well, that's lovely, isn't it? If he is contemplating leaving you, it's just a matter of time before he does. You know a relationship is doomed if one is debating whether or not to leave Person A for Person B. Doesn't make you feel very loved, like a priority, or like you will have a future with him, now does it? Must be exhausting to be just another option and wondering if or when you'll be replaced. If he is thinking about leaving you for his ex-wife, then by all means, let him! You're wasting your time with this man. You might as well make the decision for him and leave him instead. I promise you, this will end badly for you down the road. If you can't be the only option, you might as well pack your stuff
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 February 2013):
 I would bring it up, he needs to decide and not leave you hanging USING you as a safety blanket while he sits on the fence deciding if the grass is greener with you or her, not fair on you.. OR the ex GF.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 February 2013):
You don't really have a lot of options. You can do nothing and see how things play out, confront him, or leave him.
If you ignore it then you'll have this hanging over things and you'll probably have issues trusting him.
You won't be able to force him to choose you, trying will just be a waste of time.
If you leave it'll be hard but you'll get over him.
If you give more details you'll be able to get a more detailed answer.
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