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writes:I met this guy via chatmachine, and we started talking. At first we were just friends, and it stayed that way for about a year. I heard about his girlfriends, and vice versa, but we were never really close. Sometime before christmas, about 8 months after my ex and I broke up, I started talking more and more to this guy. And the more I spoke to him, the more I realised how much I hung on to every word he said. That's when I realised that my feelings for him had started shifting from friend, to something more. Though during christmas I had hooked up with someone on holiday, it didn't change our realationship when I got home. We spoke most of the time on msn, and I finally had to guts to tell him I liked him about two months later, sometime before my birthday.After that, he confessed to having feelings for me too, though it was nothing big. And as the months went on, I realised I loved him.I told him this of course, not really expecting an answer. I didn't get one. Then a few night later, he told me that he thought he felt the same way, but wasn't sure.We continued on for a week or so, not really sure what to do. Then one night, my feelings got hold of me. I was VERY horny, and his reaction to that please me no end.After that, everything just got better and better. We still talk constantly, about anything at all, and the cyber sex is great. We have cams most of the time, but speaking on the phone is still a little nerve wrecking. I feel I'm falling deeper and deeper in love with this guy.We only have one problem. He lives about 200 + miles away from me. We want to meet up so badly, but we're worried of how it'll go. A long distance relationship, after we've met and no doubtedly become even more drawn to each other, could ruin us, as the distance will obviously start to take it's toll.We're now searching for a way around that happening, but we need help. PLEASE HELP.(sorry for long description and/or any spelling mistakes.)
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 September 2007):
 It is hard hunni. And I hope things work out for you I really do. I have respect for anybody who has a long distance relationship and sticks with it because it is difficult. It can also be wonderful. I wouldn't change the last few years for anything in the world (although living closer would of been nice).
My only advice is stay in contact with each other as much as you are both comfortable with. At the start me and my other half talked ALL the time through text and IM, now we can go without talking for a few hours. Talk about how you are feeling with him and hopefully he'll do the same. It halps a lot involving him in how you feel and stuff because he cant see you to see how you are. If that made sense lol.
Anyway..... Good Luck Hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhhh, we've found out that it's not quite as bad as we thought. It's on 150, plus a little more, but not much. It's still hard though. But we're working through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): if u really love him u would take a plane or vice versa
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Yummy Mummy is right.
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reader, Xeie  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I too am in a long distance relationship and have been for about two years now. I met my guy in a forum based on writing short stories. At first we too ended up talking on msn and further on came the phone conversations (Which were very nerve racking as well!).
After about a couple months later we decided to meet. He drove all the way to come visit and seeing him did change our relationship. We ended up having a stronger relationship and more love for eachother.
Though, I must warn that these kinds of relationships do take a lot of committment and the wait can at times be a killer, but in the end it's all worth it.
Agreeing with YummyMummy, do take pre-caution with this and take a friend. Best of luck.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (7 July 2007):
I am currently in a long distance relationship and they do work. You just have to work a little harder at it that's all. I met my guy in a chat room and 3 years later we are still happy.
I was petrified when I first met my partner. He came to me and I met him at the train station where it was busy. We were worried that meeting each other would destroy the bond we had over the phone and web, but in actual fact we got on better then we did over the phone.
I would suggest as you are a bit younger than I was to take along a friend or meet in a VERY busy place to begin with just incase it doesn't go as planned.
You have had a "relationship" with this guy already so why would the distance now make a difference?!
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