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writes: I have resently started going out with this lad i have known for years. I liked him for ages and finally got the courage to tell him however we have been going out for 3 weeks and were both virgins, we came to the desion to lose our virginity togeather but i feel very anxious. I havn't got a clue about sex and just wanted know the basics and things i should no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): I would make sure that you have alot of foreplay befroe sex, (thats everything but sex incase your not sure).
I made the mistake of not finding out aeverything I could about sex before I had it, and sadly it was terrible for both of us.
Just remember you dont have to have sex just for the sake of losing your virginity.
(and make sure you have some sort of lubricant to hand unscented baby oil, royal jelly, ky jelly somthing like that. Just incase your a little dry. its very common not to become "wet" the first time you have sex).
Ok have fun
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 Who says being a virgin is a bad thing? At least you know neither of you have STDs or anything, right?
But if you've thought about it, and you really are sure, then here are some tips. First off, do everything possible to prevent pregnancy. That's a biggy, because I'm sure you don't want a kid right off the bat. Use a condom (whether it be male or female), if you're not on birth control, maybe look into that (but be warned, it usually takes a month to become effective), and always remember, nothing but abstanence is 100% no-fail.
Secondly, make sure the mood is right. You two want to be passionate with it, not just, "Ok. Are you ready to try sex?" Then, that'll just be kinda awkward, wouldn't it?
Third, don't be afraid to experiment. There are more positions than just you lay on your back and he slips it in. But that's something you'll have to try for yourself. ^.~
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): First of all, make sure you really want to take this step. There's no going back once you've done it. Second, research articles about it on-line or in book stores before you take the plunge. Be aware of the serious emotional consequence you may face afterwards, especially if the relationship doesn't work out in the long run. My advise?.....Wait. Get to know this lad a little longer. Why rush?....It'll be there tomorrow...Make is special. Make it memorable....but be sure you're making the right decision with the right person at the right time in your life. If you are very young (under 18) I recommend waiting a few more years before you take the plunge. And above all, don't allow yourself to be pressured. Best of luck.
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