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writes:Is it good for us i mean me and my girl friend to have sex at this age? We both are 19 years old. Will it be a problem after marriage? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): I think 19 is a good age, I was 18 when I first had sex I think the most Important thing is that your comfortable
And you know you love her not many people wait until they’re married unless there very religious,
And theirs nothing wrong with being religious if you feel this is right for you sexual beliefs are so varied
That what’s right for one couple would be totally wrong for the other,
it’s a question of knowing in your heart what’s right follow your guidance or your intuition let everything happen naturally and most importantly whatever your beliefs, no excuse use Condoms
stay safe keep your love safe
Take care
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 I just wanted to say that ChiRaven gave you great advice. Read it twice! I completely agree with him.
I'm just going to reiterate it, hooray!
Whether or not you're ready for sex can't be determined by age... nineteen is a fine age, that's when I lost my virginity. However, it's all about your relationship together and whether you feel like that has progressed to a good point where you both feelvery secure and comfortable with each other. As for sex before marriage... well, I don't think it'll lead to problems after you're married. Waiting, however can be really fulfilling for a lot of people. It's a very personal choice.
Read ChiRaven's advice and take it all in.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (25 March 2007):
 Whoa! WAY too little information here. While 19 is not an unreasonable age to start a sexual relationship, age should NEVER be the determining factor in whether or not to start such a relationship. The decision to begin a sexual relationship should be based on your deep feelings for one another and on a careful consideration of the consequences ... emotional and otherwise ... that can come from such a step. Are you really ready to make a true commitment to this woman? Is she ready to make one to you? If you're going to do this, you should be pledging SOMETHING of yourselves, not just the temporary use of your bodies, to one another. It need not be a "forever after" sort of thing, but just a quick roll in the hay can come back to haunt one or the other (or both) of you in some bad emotional ways.So talk about it. Be sure you've considered the possible consequences. How will you both feel ... don't be afraid to talk about your feelings, they are important. Are you taking serious and effective steps to deal with the prospects of starting a family? Not really ready for that step, are you? Well, better be ready to do something effective about it or you could be in for a big surprise.Sex before marriage usually doesn't lead to problems after marriage, but sex when the partners are not both emotionally ready for sex can lead to emotional problems that can plague one or both of you for the rest of your lives. See to it that that doesn't happen.And as I said, age is irrelevant. I've known couples who were ready for sex at 14, and I've known couples who really weren't emotionally ready for it at 25.Good luck, whatever way you decide to go. And good on you for taking the time to THINK before you let your hormones push you into something!
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