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writes:My g\f wants to get engaged I love her a lot. I want to get engaged to but b\c she don't want to get married until she is 26 we will have to wait 10 years to get married. I love her and she loves me. Like I said I want to get engaged but i don't want to be engaged for 10 years and are we old enough? PLEASE HELP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Hey - why don't you decide that in say 5 years time you could get engaged and then married 5 years after that.... this way you kind of stretch things out a bit and the gap is less wide, get to know each other really well and you can save up for the special times ahead and have these things to look forward to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): I was dating a guy when I was 16, I was in love (or thought) and we talked about getting married. I thought we would.
Turns out life and love are a lot different than I was able to understand at that age. I'm going to say, don't get engaged. You are young yes, and I'm not going to tell you whether or not your feelings for eachother are the real thing or not, that isnt my place. I will say though that if it is the real thing, not getting engaged won't hurt. If its real it will last and in 10 yrs you'll get married. So why rush??
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (23 December 2007):
 Seriously you want to get engaged and married and your this young? I can understand that you want to show your commited to each other but SLOW down your so young and at this age love doesnt last forever (im not saying you wont be together forever but its a possibility) just slow down be happy together time changes things if you want to show her commitment by her a promise ring (its not an engagement ring its a "if we are together in 10 years time il buy you an engagement ring" kinda ring)dont be in such a rush to grow up just be happy with each other and with the present dont rush to get into the future, look at all the people on this site how many are unhappy in relationships and are looking for ways out do you want to be unhappy and in an unhappy relationship where you dont think you can get out because your engaged? No i didnt think so think about it and slow down you have you entire lives to think about this kinda stuff so for now enjoy being young and in love because you never know how long it will last.
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 December 2007):
 Personally i would not recommend getting married at this early age. When i think back to when i was this age i thought i was in love with every girlfriend i had. If i got married to them, i would probably have about 5 divorces under my belt now. I think your girlfriend sounds quite level headed, she is taking a very grown up approach to this as she recognises that you are both to young to marry. I would say enjoy your young life together have fun, go on holidays, and enjoy each others company. If when you both get into your late teens early 20's and you both still feel this strongly then broach the subject then.
All the best & good luck x
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