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writes:I am 16 going on 17 and me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for months. I have been wanting this for a long time now but nothing is happening. I am willing to do anything for this baby. I am scared if i go to my doctors, he will go against the idea what shal i do? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Ask any parent who was a teen and see how many wish that it was different. Your doctor will tell you it's wrong because it is wrong. Live your life. And yes get a puppy it will help.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Wonderful answer from TasteofIndia, please listen to her.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (7 April 2011):
 That's a brilliant answer from TasteofIndia. My only amendment would be to recommend a kitten instead of a puppy :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Your body is doing the right thing. By getting pregnant now, you are putting yourself - but perhaps more importantly - your BABY at risk of a slew of health issues. If you are willing to do anything for this baby, you should wait until your body is ready to give the baby a healthy vessel to grow in. The baby needs you to be at 100% and you're just not there yet. This has nothing to do with YOU and your mental preparedness, it has to do with BIOLOGY. In the meantime, get a puppy (I'm not kidding. This is what I did and believe me, it worked. You get to name it, love it and then they pee, poop, eat, sleep and play. They're pretty much fuzzy babies who don't make nearly as much noise and you can leave them alone in your house for 12 hours and it's not neglectful or abusive), by a big bin and start collecting baby clothes, diapers, toys. Because what's great about babies? BABY STUFF! Those onsies and tiny socks, I mean come on. It's freakin' adorable. So start stacking up! It's not like you won't be thanking yourself later.Also, start a journal for your baby. Tell your future child your hopes, dreams, teen experiences, dating advice, advice for school, stuff like that. It'll be a gift that your child cherishes forever more. Be the great parent that you want to be and wait. You've been very lucky so far. Protecting yourself and being smart about pregnancy will pay off and encourage your future child to make good decisions too. You are a role model for your child already, so do what you'd want him/her to do. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 April 2011):
 There's a reason the doctor won't approve, you're both WAY too young to have a baby. You're not even legally adults yet. Babies cost an enormous amount of money to raise, and that kind of money is hard to get unless you finish school, which would be hard to do with a baby. Further, these years of your life (your late teens and early twenties) are some of the fastest changing ones you'll ever experience. You may not even want to be with your boyfriend in two years, let alone have a two year old to take care of. There's no reason to rush into having a baby, it's irresponsible. If you're serious about becoming parents, you'll still be serious about it in your twenties when your lives are more stable.
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