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writes:Im a 26 year old guy and iv recently been seeing a 17 year old girl, we have literally everything in common and get on so well. Been out on a few occasions and we both like eachother. Would it be wrong to ever start a relationship?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): I was in this exact situation many years ago. I was a friend of her family and pretty much everyone was supportive. It lasted about 2 years. The reason the relationship ended is that most teenagers go through some really big changes in their mid to late teens and her whole outlook on life changed over this time. The person I was dating 2 years later was not the same person I started going out with.At 31, I married my wife who was 21 (we are still together 26 years later)So the problem is more likely to be the age than the age difference
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reader, young_boyo +, writes (7 April 2011):
young_boyo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMany thanks for all your replies. It is very much appreciated :)
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reader, youngnaivemaybe  +, writes (7 April 2011):
Wow. This is the exact situation I have gone through. I was 17 when my 26 year old bf & I staryed dating. I can't even begin to convey how extremely difficult the road was after lies & deciet, but after a long talk between my parents, bf, & I; we were allowed to date w/ my parents concent. Though my parents were very lenient towards our wanting to date because he had been an old family friend, they still to this day don't completely understand it. Everyone around us told us to just wait 3 months until my birthday so it would be legal but we felt such a strong draw towards each other, we couldn't stay away. I suggest that if you truly are willing to go through some shit for this girl (whom I'm sure is worth it), you be completely upfront & honest with her parents & explain your intentions. The best thing you can do is try. If that fails.. I guess you'll have to wait. & good luck with that. :/ the heart wants what the heart wants. There's no age limit to love. I wish you both the best. I can work out for the best. Me & my bf are so entirely happy together; we know we made the right choice to persue our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): If it's legal and you are absolutely NOT in a position to abuse this, then I've seen stranger things that worked. Be happy and take care.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (7 April 2011):
Formula to use is 1/2 your age plus seven. Seems to work at any age. At your age, you should go no younger than 20.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 I would definitely wait until she is 18 but although there is a rather large age and life difference between you there is nothing wrong with you two dating. People will judge but we can't help who we fall in love with. Also the age gap seems bad now but 10 years later and on the gap seems to matter less and less.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 April 2011):
 EVER? no
NOW? Yes
in the USA legal adult is 18 I would wait until at least then
even still be prepared for flack.
I am 51 my bf is 37 I get flack all the time...
my friends swear i'm going to start trolling the high schools for my next boyfriend...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Wrong, no. Fairly inappropriate, yes. She's quite young for you and people would definitely get the wrong idea. But if you both really like each other, it doesn't matter what other people think and I don't think any harm could come of it.
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reader, Love Mama +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Dear Mr. Jones,
Twenty-six and seventeen is a huge difference in age. If you ever want to become someone important and respected in this girl's family, you ought to consider a very honorable type of relationship until she is adult age. Depending upon your country of residence, you could also get yourself into a heap of trouble legally.
Let me ask this one question: Would you want your 17 year old daughter/sister/whatever dating a 26 year old? REALLY?
Love Mama
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