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writes:A bit of a shallow question I know and I feel really bad asking about it. Theres this guy I work with. Never been attracted to him. In fact we have a bit of history or "not getting on." As I've said, never found him attractive, but lately we decided to clear the air and try to move on just to make things more pleasant. Since then he has been very friendly to me and I have been likewise - he earned some respect simply for being mature enough to clear the air. However, lately I've started to feel attracted to him. But only when he's in a position of power and wearing his expensive suits. I don't find him physically attractive, I just seem to find his mannerisms attractive - he's dominating, confident etc etc etc. What's wrong with me? I don't even "like" this guy. We used to hate each other and generally treated each other with very little respect and now I get butterflys whenever he comes near me.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Your dislikes has turned to admiration and love.You now see him differently. There goes your new feelings ..
You got on a wrong start and now you see him in the proper perspective.
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reader, lilmisse2424  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 Maybe he has something that you may be looking for in a potential boyfriend, and the fact that you are attracted to him in some way shows it. He does not have to be a stud to get you to go out with. The fact that he as grown out of the ways that he was before is something that is drawing you to him. It's good that you like him on the inside because looks are overrated. what matters more is a person's personality. Good luck there
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (19 February 2008):
 He doesn't have to look like Brad Pitt, for you to be attracted to him. I think you may have found his mature approach on having a good working relationship attractive and also how he carries himself.
I think that is rather a good quality of a potential boyfriend, he treats you with respect etc. Why don't you ask to go out for a drink with you after work? And I also applaud you for being mature enough to find him attractive on the inside even though he did not float your boat at first, there are too many people in this world who are superficial and only go for looks. Good luck. Dusky xxx.
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