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writes:well i am a bit stuffed atm lol, me and my girlfriend (both near 16) have bin going out 2months now and it just feels so right. we recently tried sex after a couple of drinks but it just did not work. i can easily fit my finger in but only one at a time as more than 1 she gets uncomfortable and complains of it hurting. i am realy baffeld on what to do if any one can help please answer me as i am in desperet need thanks ! Reply to this Question
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reader, shaye  +, writes (29 July 2007):
i think she feels its hurting because she just isnt ready yet. i think you both should sit down and talk to each other about maybe waiting until ur both physicly and emontionly ready! Im sure u want her 1st time to be amazing so just wait a little, you will no when the time is really right x
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reader, xAngeliquex +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Well are you sure she's ready? You know vaginal muscles don't relax until like the rest of the body's relaxed -- you cannot have sex comfortably with tensed vaginal muscles. Two fingers should be fine and slip in comfortably, so maybe she says she's ready but she's probably not. Yeah you should concentrate on foreplay really..sex shouldn't be top of the cards when you're that young. And, if this sex is like "planned" stop planning it because she could meet up with you thinking 'gosh, sex sex sex' then overthink it, leading to tensed muscles. I've been there..lol.By the way I'm not tellin you you shouldn't have sex -- it's up to you when you become sexually active. But just talk about it and discuss whether it's something you're both ready for at this moment.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Yeah. Wait a coupla months til you're 16. You're not even the legal age yet so slow it down.
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reader, jk0 +, writes (28 July 2007):
hey. you need to slow this relationship DOWN bro.you're only 16. only going out for 2 months, i dont doubt you are in love cos "it only takes a minute, girl" in the words of Take That. ha. but seriously, concentrate on having fun n laughing together, there is nothing wrong with not having sex. give it some time, she obviously isnt ready as you can only "fit one finger" try slowing it down and not rushing it with the second finger, make sure she is well lubricated and concentrate on her breasts, neck and lips aswell as your fingers. that way she will get more wet (lubricated) and might even loosen the vagina so you can fit more than one finger in!slow slow slow though is the key mate. unless she asks for it faster when you get going.but maybe sex isnt a good idea at the mo.when you can easily fit two or three fingers in, then perhaps contemplate having sex. i think you are going too fast myself.try more oral sex and kissing rather than penetrative sex, if you are both horny.hope this helps, take care and if you do get up to anything, always be protected.stay safe.mail me to ask anything else or just thank me if it helped!
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