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writes: i don't know what to think or do?!?my boyfriend and i have just celebrated our 6th yearly aniversay and i know he loves me very much. we run two businesses together and are renovating a flat together. we had some problems last year and he took alot of time out and away from me. he realised he missed me very much and that he wanted to be with me for the rest of my life! great you think....except i am now paranoid about where he spent all that time away from me and who with. he is really vague ad cagey about it and now always takes his phone calls outside. he is also really possessive about his phone and never lets it out of his sight. i know it's wrong but i became so paranoid i looked at his texts while he was asleep. he had received an txt from a girl we met on holiday over a year ago and i no she fancies him. her txt read....i love you too, the only time i am happy is when i am with you......i confronted him and he maintains he only said he loved her in a jokey manner you know like "Luv Ya!" he claims he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me not her. but i just don't know. i had asked him not to contact her after she made a move on him when we were away - i feel betrayed but i love him and i don't want to waste six years with a man who always treated me so well. i just don't know that i believe him.....what do i do?
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reader, mystify +, writes (3 March 2006):
 id leave him now before you convince yourself with his lies, my husband used to keep his mobile on him all the time the same as your boyfriend, and i mean he used to go to sleep with it under his pillow! then one day he went outside to answer his phone as usual but the window was open and i heard his phone call, it wasnt another woman but it was a guy that he knew he said he stay away from because hed constantly swear at me in my own home etc... the point is he hadnt been attached to his phone before that and hasnt since , they only do that when they dont want you to know something , and luckily you just found out what that is, take this as your opportunity to leave!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Sounds to me like he is still playing away, you need to look a lot further into this as he is definatly up to no good.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Something has gone on, but would it make you feel any better to actually have the proof.
Dont you wish you hadnt snooped now?
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (3 March 2006):
 I don't beleive him and I think he is lying to you, he's got a stable life with you and a frilling life her. I'm sorry to say this to you as I don't want to upset you, but thats quite a serious text message and you know it and I think that you know in your gut feeling that he is lying to you.I'm sorry I can't advise you any more. I'm in no position to give you advice about how to handle this, because my boyfriend does the same and I don't know what to do about it. It will be interesting to see what everyone advises, but I can say I really think he is lying to you x
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reader, i no how u feel  +, writes (3 March 2006):
Get out now. believe me i had my boyfriend of 5 years and the father of my daughter do the same thing. Hiding his phone, sneaky msgs, disappering for hours. in the end he was cheating on me. had been for 6 months. all along he swore that he loved me and there was no one else, and i trusted him. He still says he loves me and we are still together, sometimes i don't know why. i love him but do i trust him? NO. We fight all the time. If you are going to stay with him, keep your eye out. Hes cheating don't doubt that hes not. And dont think that hel tell the truth when you ask he won't, the only way hel admit it is if you get hard proof. please believe me, if he is get out now, they don't change
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reader, lisa_01 +, writes (3 March 2006):
 ok well its very obvious that something fishy is going on between your guy and this chick, i think that you should put your foot down and just say if you have anymore contact with his person im leaving and that you demand the truth. i think maybe there is love in the air with these two and maybe he has became confused of his feelings and went away to think then he realised he loved you and maybe she is trying to get him back, this is a sticky situation and you need to get the truth or your trust and respect for this guy will totally go down the drain and the next thing you know you will be full of hurt and you have broken up with him. good luck with getting to the bottom of this.
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