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writes:I need help and i dont know what to do. Im a 13 year old girl and my best friend(who is 13 too) had sex with her boyfriend and she hasnt had her period in about, a month n two weeks.She cant eat and she throws up all the time.We(me n our other best friend) got her to take a pregnancy and it didnt say yes... but i didnt say no.And now were all very scared.I wanna be there as much as I can for her but she cant tell her parents, I mean she can, but shes scared shitless of what they'll think, or do.But if she waits to long and really is pregant, and she cant get an abortion what would we do.Any advice as to what I can do to help her do the right thing?
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reader, uncle bob +, writes (8 March 2011):
 First, she should talk to her doctor, and ask what her options are. By law, doctors are not permitted to speak to her parents without her permission.Second, she should seek counselling, she's about to face things she's never faced before, she's going to need guidence from a professional. Friends are great to lean onbut they're too ill-equipped to be of any practical help.
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reader, i_love_you1230  +, writes (17 March 2010):
I personally am going through the same problem... i juss found out today tht my bess frend might be pregnant and i began searching the internet for helpful information. I believe tht ur mate needs to talk to someone. if shes afraid to talk to her parents then she should go see a Dr and be certain. I think you should make sure you stand by her and make sure you are there for her to help her and support her no matter what. I think thats the only thing you can do right now...
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reader, pebble +, writes (17 May 2009):
 She needs to see a doctor to get it confirmed first. Then, if she is pregnant she NEEDS to tell her mum. She cannot hide this away. I bet her mum has already noticed that she's throwing up all the time, eventually it will have to come out.
This will not just go away if she ignores it. It will get bigger. She thought she was mature enough for unprotected sex (obviously she wasn't) so now she has to face the consequences of her actions.
Abortion comes with huge emotional baggage afterwards, so don't think she can just have one and forget it ever happened. It won't be like that, lots of people need counselling afterwards and the procedure itself is a horrible thing for her body to go through.
She needs to see a docotor and then tell her parents. There should be no question about it.
Good luck.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (17 May 2009):
 It does sound like she might be pregnant. She really needs her parents support here. Yes they'll probably be mad and a little shocked and upset but they'll want to help her through this. If she really doesn't want to talk to her parents yet, get her to take another test. She really shouldn't have to be going through this at her age, you should advise her to take precautions in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): first things first if ur m8 is pregnant then she can have an abortion until she is 20 weeks..thats 5 months so shed hv started showing her bump and know she was pregnant. Ok your friend needs to see a doctor ASAP to find out 100% & he can giv her advice from there. She shdnt b havin sex at that age but if she is she NEEDS to use protection.
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