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writes: I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago. We then had a complicated and stupid situation of being sex buddies/friends. He said he wanted to stay single and so do I, even though I know that if he wanted to give us another go i'd jump at the chance. On tuesday he rang me and told me he had a new girlfriend so we couldn't do what we were doing anymore. We talked a lot as I was understandably pissed off, and he said as I obviously had issues we can't even remain friends as it would be too awkward. I got over it, realising there's nothing I can do and that going cold turkey would do me good, but he rang me out of the blue last night asking to come over coz he's been ditched by his friends and needed some company (he made the 45 minute walk to my house at 10 at night). I was just pleased that he had had a change of heart and decided to be friends, but we ended up having a lot of sex. I knew I was being used, and to be honest I was cool with it coz sex is just such a good stress relief it really helped me. But we slept side by side and when he thought I was asleep he started affectionately touching my hair and face. Surely he has his new girlfriend for that? The sex was really rough, he now has scratches and bitemarks all over him that his girlfriend is bound to notice. What's going on here?!
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (28 October 2006):
 hiya,
he maybe was scared of commitment or he maybe felt that he wanted something new or he may of been feeling sad and thought that he had made a wrong decision that he split with you and this other girl came along and at the time he may of been feeling gulable.
he made the choice to come over and it was both of your choice to have rough sex but as for the marks and his gf seing them thats his own fault.
he obviously still likes you becuase he came back to you and made the effort to talk to you and ask if he could come over but lets face it i wouldnt walk 45 minutes to see just a friend he may want to be more than that but dont no how to ask you maybe drop a few hints and see what he says.
dont worry about the marks she may never find out. x
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reader, stina  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Hi Anonymous,
What's going on is that this guy seems to still have some sort of feelings for you - whether it be lust or love.
I think that you two should have a talk about what happened and what sort of relationship you two want to have. If it's to be friends, then I strongly suggest it stays that way. If you think that neither of you can handle it, I think it's best to just stop talking with him. If you keep getting with him while he has a girlfriend, it's only going to keep you (and probably him) confused.
By leaving him alone, a couple of things could happen. He might realize after not talking with you or seeing you for so long that he really does miss you and want to be with you again. Or else you might meet someone who you want to have as a partner in your life.
Not talking with him will not be easy - as you probably found out the first time you guys attempted this. But it is probably the best choice so that the both of you can figure out what the heck is going on and will allow you time to heal from the break-up.
So if he asks to see you again in the future, I suggest you tell him no. Unless he wants to seriously try and work on your relationship again, and not just have sex.
Take care.
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