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writes:im heartbroken.....ive been dumped AGAIN for another woman....by the same man!! I should never of took him back after he did it the first time, but I did.....and I fell in love with him again, and now hes finished with me for someone else. I cant handle this pain and my whole life seems to be revolving around him, for example if Im out with my friends i want to "accidentally on purpose" bump into him. And when Im at work I seem to spend more time thinking up ways to get him to come back to me. I really am so hurt my friends are worried cos ive lost so much weight. I cant handle the fact that hes done this to me twice now. Whats more, I cant handle the fact that i fell in love with someone who used me and had no respect for me whatsoever. How can i ever move on from this.
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reader, 05hughesk +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Just try and take your mind of him .. its his loss!
Dont let him get you down just go back out there and have a good time with your friends .. you will soon forget about him =]
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reader, tina888 +, writes (7 September 2008):
When I have split with men in bad circumstances, I have also lost a lot of weight. It's difficult to eat and you probably reach ofor coffee instead..sleeping then becomes difficult.
You need to focus on something else. Decorating is good! Open the windows, let the cold air in and get stuck in! Holidays are good, but if you dont have the money or a friend to go away with, this may not be possible. Decorating does not have to be expensive and you can play music while you're doing it!
Do not start looking for another relationship! Take a stock of your life. This guy must be very insecure that he has to bound out of one relationship and into another everytime. If I was his new girlfriend, I wouldnt trust him, would you!
If you are struggling to eat, try cooking simply, like omlettes and stir fry vegetables and drink lots of water.
This guy is not worth it....let him go.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 September 2008):
Well the good news is that you are past the stage of going into self destructive spirals... you are here so you no longer want to curl up and die, you want to get over him.
You are going to need time away. Take a week of work, grab a girlfriend, or if you are feeling brave go alone - and grab a last minute deal to go away somewhere. Portugal is really cheap this year - as is Jersey for obvious reasons. Spain is ALWAYS cheap and Turkey is still really warm if you head to the south of the country.
Get away from all the things that remind you of him, and that means the mobiles you spoke on, the bed sheets you slept in, the things he gave you, the dress that was his favourite.
Switch off any sad songs and listen to lots of strong kick arse stuff.
Make changes in your life. Dye your hair blonde / bright red. Re-invent yourself and move all your furniture. Take up something completely new... most Fencing clubs will lend you some kit so you can learn to sword fight!
The thing is there is a really high chance that when it all goes wrong with this new girl he is "going to realise what a mistake he made" and how "he's been stupid because you are the only girl for him."
He will come back to you because that is what he does.... and then another girl will come along and you will go through more terrible trauma.
For this reason you have to cut him out of your life. Change your number. Delete all his texts - tell yourself they were all lies anyway. Remove and block him from any online things you have like face book myspace msn.
Don't give him a way to get in touch again. Take the power back from him and make a choice to change and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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