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writes: im 18, my ex-bf broke up with me more than 2 months ago, he wanted space and told me i was too clingy and he didnt want the responsibility. Thing is we've stayed friends and getting closer and closer each day. I've tried to simply move on and cut contact but I can't because I still love him. Both of us aren't seeing anyone else right now but he ain't getting back with me yet.We're doing things we used to do as a couple, eating out, hugging touching the only difference is there's no commitment. I still love him and he tells me he loves me but why is he not getting in a relationship with me again? I see him less now, he has all the space but when we see each other we just do things we used to do as a couple, but I don't feel secure because there's no commitment. I'm afraid I might end up hurt again. What should I do? I can't avoid him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2006): From a man's point of view, I have to agree that you're setting yourself up for pain.
If he loves you, he will miss you and want you back. You're instead giving him everything he needs from you while not getting what you need... a committed relationship.
Guys love to feel loved. He'll take all you give him for whatever price it comes. If it's cheap (no commitment required) he'll certainly take it.
Don't do that to yourself. Make him earn your affection and attention by being man enough to be responsible for your needs as well. If he can't do that, drop him like a bag of dirt. You can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): Why would he give that up? You're lettin him get away with actin like he is the man. Do you know he isnt seeing someone else? If he doenst want a relationship, then there is nothing you can do about that and like you're worried about getting hurt again, you're setting yourself up for it!
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reader, pica +, writes (27 October 2006):
He appears to have downgraded your relationship. You are providing him with whatever comfort he requires from you but you're not getting what you need from him. Sorry .. you should move on and get him out of your life. Don't accept less than you want in a relationship. What next, sharing him with some unsuspecting other girl?? He's not worth it and you are worth more.
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