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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. In the last 5 months we were not doing so good so we split up thinkkng we were'nt going to be together anymore. Well I moved on to someone else and so did he. We've been together for the last 2 months and things have been great but he ended up getting that girl pregnant and I found out yesterday so i told him. My question is what do i do? Do i stay with him and support him or walk away forever or be his friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for being here for me when i needed somebody or just anybody to give me some helping words of advice. my situation has eased up and i've decided to stay with him, now i we just have to wait for the child to arrive and see how things go.
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reader, nice girl +, writes (25 January 2006):
hello I am from the bronx and I am going through the same thing right now i chose to stay with him but I have a problem with her because she thinks there going to be together and she knew about me . my boyfriend makes me mad because he said he would be there for the baby and she calls for everything and the baby is not here yet, he even helped out with the babyshower that makes me mad. you have to make sure you are ready for whats going to happen and he has to tell you where you stand I feel my boyfriend loves but to me he sends mixed singnals by helping ,after he told her to get an abortion and she did not, so why does she feel he should when she says.I am his girlfriend and i am not going for it if you need someone to talk to you can call me because where going through the same thing and I need someone to talk who understands here my number 917-806-6168 if you ever want to talk call.good luck and stay strong goodbye and remember you are not alone
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Well, it all depends on how strongly you feel about him. Do you love him enough to be there for him while he helps raise/pay for the child? If so, are you going to be there as just a friend, or as more than a friend? I guess the main question here is whether you see yourself being with him in the long-term, for better or for worse, so to speak.
You must understand that if you walk away now and don't support him, things will never be the same between you two. You'd be punishing him for something that happened while you were broken up, and he'd feel like you didn't care about him all that much because you'd be turning your back on him at a time when he needed your love and support the most.
Do you know for a fact that he's the only person the girl was sexually active with during that timeframe? If you are both positive that he is the father, then keep in mind that the other girl is forever going to be a part of his life in some way, shape, or form, and that the two of them might even consider getting back together for the sake of the baby. That's just one more thing to consider and talk over with him when you're making the difficult decision as to whether to continue your relationship with him.
I know this isn't easy. My thoughts are with you.
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