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*umbelina
writes:A week ago my first serious B/F of 18 months split with me. it is something that i had been thinking about for a while too and although I love him and I know he loves me, we don't make each other happy anymore. I had been doing really well and although it has been incrediably hard, I know it's the right thing in the long run as we want different things from our future. However last night, I went back to our local and he was there. He saw that I had my car with me and offered me a place to stay. we ended up having the most fantastic night together; we couldn't get enough of each other and I realised how much I missed the physical side of our relationship. Although I don't regret it, (I think it helped to give me some closure) I feel that I have let myself down and set back all the hard work I had done before this had happened. I just feel so confused because I love and miss him but know that he is not right for me; so why does it hurt so much? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): i know EXACTLY what you are going through. i LOVED this guy once soo much it hurt, and we were amazing together,but we both knew that in the long run it wasnt right,dont know why but it just wasnt. he was AMAZING in bed,and to be honest i do miss that side of things,but you have to always be honest with yourself. Could you really have a relationship that it purely sexual? That's nice sometimes,but no way to build a relationship. And of course you will miss him, maybe even for the rest of your life,but that doesnt mean it wasnt the right thing to do,and waiting for that next special person,may not be nice but it will be worth it. When you realise u can feel the same again without having to go back to previous guys who just weren't right. I'm still missing heavily my ex,but seeing my friends and the happiness they can have with someone,makes me want to wait to have that special bond that never feels wierd. hope this helps :) xxx
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