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writes: I split up with my girlfriend of about three months about a month or so ago... We are both at uni together and would see each other about 2/3 times a week on average. When we were together it'd be fine, and we'd get on really well, good sex etc. However, when we were apart my girlfriend would tell me she found it weird and that something she couldn't put her finger on didnt' feel right. Anyway, whenever I went round hers or went out with her this would go away and it'd be fine again and she'd say things felt right and normal.However, the week before we split she'd start being rude to me and sending me offhand texts, and eventually we met up and decided mutually to call it a day as it wasn't working. She again said that something didn't feel 'right' and that she couldn't say what. She also said she wanted to stay friends and if anything developed in the new year then so be it.She told me she gets on with me so well and she really likes me and that she felt more comfortable with me after a week than with her boyfriend of 6 months previous (surely a good thing?!), but that at times it just felt more like chilling with a friend. However, she told me that she fancied me the first time she ever saw me (a year and a half before we got together) and that she fantasised about getting together with me several months before we did.Anyway ever since we have split I've sort of been missing her, - I don't know know if i miss the sex, her company or actually being with her! Also, it's weird not hearing from her everyday like I am used to. She'll text me randomly and whenever I reply she will not text back, and if i text her then she'll usually not text back. However, it's fine for her to still text me randomly asking things like 'did u watch 'x' on tv last night?'.Any advice would be much appreciated, - should I move on or not? Part of the problem is that we got on well when we were together and never really had a row! She's also literally the best looking girl at uni, - the kinda girl every guy wants to be with! People used to say we looked like a cool couple as well which boosted your ego a bit! If I want to get back with her, what's the best way to do this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): i think that you love hanging around with her but then dont when she's not there, you probly already no that but yano and that you should ask yourself do you really love her. i mean if you love somebody your suppose no it straight away without thinking, wanting to take chances and all of that, and if you have to think about it it might not be the right desicion.you ex g/f sounds very confusing! i mean she doesnt txt you back? and says theres a funny feeling she gets and then other times she says, it was love @ first sight for u's to. i think you are your g/f should talk to each other. if you love her and want to go out with her tell her. what have you got to loose? you might get embarrassed but it's better noing her feelings and where you stand then worrying about what could of happened. i no this doesnt tell you much but follow your heart and if you think about her this much well take a chancei hope i helped a little bit x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): hiif I were you , and especially your age , i would seriously just try your best to move on.i'm a'few 'years older than you , and in a slightly more complicated situation , but was told the same thing by my boyfriend of 2 years +. there was something missing he said.Its really hard on your feelings I know , but I honestly think it would be for the best .Your young and in my opinion you should be out there enjoying yourself , and just having some fun , not stressing about whether one girl is ineterested in you or not? and as an added bonus , if she see's you moving on , it may just convince her of what she had??i wish you the best of luck take care
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