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*onelylady
writes:I have recently split up with my boyfriend after 4 years i didn't see it coming i feel so alone and confused i can't stop crying, now he's started to treat me as if i never matterd to him he used to tel me all the time that he loved me more than anythng in the world what should i do?
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reader, DV1  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 When someone is hurt, they say hurtful things. He probably loves you very deeply, and was trying to make you feel what he felt. You're going to feel empty for a while. It's almost a sense of grieving to end a long relationship. It's like losing half of yourself. My advice is to make a list of the things that you still have, and things that you're grateful for. Time heals all wounds. You'll be fine.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (21 May 2007):
I am sorry for your suffering, but in truth you are doing exactly what you should be doing. Losing someone is painful and you wouldn't understand it, having not seen it coming. You are trying to get rid of your pain rather than accepting it. You will find that accepting it and going through it is important in processing your loss. It is natural to feel alone, confused and hurt, and to cry. Just know that you won't feel like this forever, it is a process you have to go through.
Even if he is acting like you didn't mean anything, I am sure this is just his way of dealing with the loss, and I am sure you mean a great deal to him. However, his feelings should not be your focus at this time, as you cannot do anything about how he feels. Be concerned with your own feelings at this time, and keep close to others in your life who love you during this time.
Good luck!
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