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writes:What should i do in this situation?I like this guy ALOT,we used to work together,all he ever did was to look at me,but it never led to anything..I stil see him as hes a technician,im really into this guy yet it seems like he lost interst,i still see him so it hurts....And telling him aint a option. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Well, I have to echo what others have said here. The reason that this hurts is because you are confused as to where you stand and right now you just dont know where you stand. You need to find that out or else it wont stop hurting.
If he rejects you on racial grounds then frankly imho he isn't worth being with in any case. It's the person that matters not anything else. Good luck.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (20 May 2007):
 What have you got to lose in askin him out? If anything, you would gain.
He could have lost interest in you for many reasons, ie he may be thinkin your with someone already.
What if he doesnt talk to you first then what? Then you'l never talk to each other.
The ice has to be broken here between you two, so why not be the one to talk to him first plus you have nothing to lose so go for it.
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reader, mwah +, writes (20 May 2007):
 in my opinion.. it never hurts to ask..
if u want u shud take a different approach.. see if you can speak with his friends or use ur friends to slide into the circle.
end of the day .. if u dont find out whats really going on.. you will spend a very long time wondering if it could have worked out...
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reader, Kimino +, writes (20 May 2007):
Kimino is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDazzerg i hear what ur saying,but i dnt want to look like a fool if he should turn me down,hes a white dude and im indian,that mite also be the reason why it never led to anything
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reader, kenny +, writes (20 May 2007):
 Ok so the two of you used to work together, he used to look at you all the time which implies that he liked you. Maybe it never lead to anything because he was trying to keep it professional because of your working relationship. You say he has lost interest, but maybe he is thinking the same thing about you. So consequently you are not going to break the ice with him because you think he has lost interest, and he is not going to talk to you probably for the same reasons. One of you has got to make a move, when you parted from work did you exchange phone numbers, email adresses or anything. I hear what you say about it not being an option telling him, but i think its your only option here. If you are waiting for him you could be hanging on for ever.
Good luck x
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (20 May 2007):
I think that in general the advice would be if not to tell him then at least to test the water by asking him out somewhere socially. However, you say that is not an option. If you dont mind me asking, why is that?
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