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writes:Ok so the other night I crashed on a friends couch because I was pretty drunk but after I'd gotten ready and into a sleeping bag my friend came back haven met another of our male friends and he was also going to be crashing in the living room but except on the floor. Anyway he sort of opened his sleeping bag and was like "come and spoon?" so i did using our sleeping bags as covers. Anyway he took his clothes off and so I though what the hell this is really uncomfortable so I took mine of aswell so we were both only wearing underwear.Anyway I start sort of grinding into him and then after a while he told me he was kinda going out with someone so I thought oh shit and sort of moved away from him as far as could but then he like pulled me back and tickled me.So for the rest of the night we were talking and watching youtube videos and he was like poking me and tickling me and stuff and it was totally platonic but I still feel really bad, what should I do I don't like the guy as more than a friend.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (24 November 2015):
Don't do anything. If he mentions it, just say you were a bit drunk and that you feel uncomfortable with it now because he has a GF etc etc etc and that you don't want a repeat performance. If he doesn't mention it, just pretend it didn't happen.
And don't be drunk and alone with this guy again. Although it might not seem so, poking and tickling aren't really "platonic" behaviours - they're covert sexual behaviours allowing people to have physical contact so avoid them if you don't want the guy.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 November 2015):
 Hi sweets,
You don't really need to DO anything, I don't think. If he tries to pursue you, tell him straight out that you're not interested. If he pushes the issue, call him out on being a scum bag.
I am a little curious/worried about your train of thought though. He took his clothes off, and you felt uncomfortable, so you took your clothes off too?
I'm not sure why you followed suit, if you felt creeped out? Did you feel pressured, or obligated, or afraid? Sister, you are STRONG, your body is YOURS, and I hope that as you go forward in life you are better able to stand up for yourself.
Next time that you cuddle with someone and they do something that feel unwarranted and unwanted like taking off their clothes, I would probably remove myself from the situation, or at least say, "what the hell, this is really uncomfortable" out loud. If he is truly a friend, he would never want to make you feel uncomfortable, and he should know that his behavior is EXTREMELY creepy.
Best of luck!
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (24 November 2015):
 You don't do anything other than not getting half naked in a sleeping bag with him again. He is a sleaze..He openly admits seeing someone but carries on like that. Lucky you don't like him hardly a trust worthy sort.
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