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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We have a great relationship and are now beginning to move forward woth our relationship and working on plans to move in together. We were wondering whether our current situation is "normal" or not- Since we spend the majority of our free time together, we find that at times we seem to run out of things to say. It isn't often and it isn't all of the time, but it does happen. Does this happen to other couples and is it OK or is it something that we should be concerned about? Curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 If you're unhappy about this, then maybe you two should have some alone time or go out with your own friends apart from each other. Then you might have more to talk about.
Otherwise, if you're fine with it, then it's no big deal - I would only think it's a "problem" if you felt uncomfortable about the silence. You don't have to keep talking non-stop to each other, you know? I, myself, enjoy time with my husband regardless of talking or not. :)
So the answer to your question - I wouldn't be concerned about it; everyone's relationships differ and if you're both happy then that's all that matters!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 Well if you run out of things to they then they and spend some time apart, because it is possible to see someone "too" much however it is not abnormal, its just a lot of people I know say that a relationship stays sweeter when you do have some individual space on your own and with other friends as opposed to spending all your time with your partner. You have to remember that you are an individual person and you need to be individual at times. Take care. xXx
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (28 August 2006):
 well i wouldnt beconcered just now it meansthat use are happy to talk for ages untill there isnothin to talk about and if use are happy go ahead doll cheersxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): well i really don't think that spending that much time together in the first place is healthy. even for married couples. maybe i'm wrong in my views, but i personally believe that having an outside life apart from your significant other is crucial. it helps you keep a strong since of identity, and allows you to spend time with other people who love you and bring out other aspects of your personality. which i find extremely important. i was just like you two in my relationship. i'd been with my partner for over two years, and we just recently realized that we need to tone it down and spend less time together because it takes all the appreciation of each other out of your relationship. so we're working on seeing our friends more now, which i didn't realize i missed as much as i do. i would recomend trying that. see how it goes. good luck.
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