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writes:How can someone be so desperate?I went on a road trip with one of my friends, we had agreed that what ever happend on this road trip stayed there, not to get attached or enything, plus i knew him well and knew he slept around so he isnt really my type. We didn't sleep together not even close actually, we only kissed. And now he acts as tho we had something realy special and that it would go somewhere!! Just by hanging out with him I know it would never work out as a couple because I cant stand him. Plus its impossible to be this attached after a week end come on!I tolled him that we had an agreement and that I hade no feelings what so ever for him and hes still upset by this, IT HAS BEEN 2 MONTHS NOW!What the hell ?! Reply to this Question
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reader, zebralove +, writes (20 August 2010):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the question Oh dont tell me your one of thoes guys who dont beleive in love.
Deff. of love from the dictionary:
1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties maternal love for a child (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests love for his old schoolmates b : an assurance of love give her my love
2 : warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion love of the sea
3 a : the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration baseball was his first love b (1) : a beloved person : darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British —used as an informal term of address
4 a : unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1) : the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2) : brotherly concern for others
Studies have shown that brain scans of those infatuated by love display a resemblance to those with a mental illness. Love creates activity in the same area of the brain where hunger, thirst, and drug cravings create activity. New love, therefore, could possibly be more physical than emotional. Over time, this reaction to love mellows, and different areas of the brain are activated, primarily ones involving long-term commitments.
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reader, Pazush  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 you really dont wanna know what i really do think of love
although, i have a gf for almost two years :)
it is more about settling your mind and demands
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reader, zebralove +, writes (20 August 2010):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBahahaha!! Pazush, I love it! Man whores have feelings to. hihi
But the thing is he probly just likes me because i'm a chalenge to him. I don't want to give myself to someone who just wants me to prove a point. I want someone to love. ;)
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reader, Pazush +, writes (20 August 2010):
man whores has feelings too, trust me i know ;)
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reader, zebralove +, writes (20 August 2010):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnot what i said...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): If you can't stand him then why did you kiss him?
He's probably liked you for a long time and saw that as his chance to finally get with you.
Look you can't just go around kissing guys and not expect some of them to want more. To you it might be a bit of casual fun, but if someone really likes you, like this guy does it can mean a hell of a lot more.
If there's one you thing you should remember in life it's that actions speak louder than words. You say you're not interested in him but you kissed him, even though you made it clear nothing more would happen, the act of kissing him says otherwise. That's what happens when you have feelings for someone, you look for signs in their behaviour that there's a chance. You kissed him, you gave him a taste of what it would be like to be with you and now you expect him to just forget about it like nothing happened.
It doesn't work like that, not when you really like someone.
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reader, zebralove +, writes (20 August 2010):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell yes I care for him because he was my friend long befor this happend. But also a man whore so I dont understand why hes acting like this with me.
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reader, Pazush +, writes (20 August 2010):
things happens. he might be thinking about getting closer to you even before you kissed.
dont be mean to him, hes in a vulnerable situation.
fact that you asked here about it shows you care about how to handle with him.
do it carefuly and let him know for sure it wont work - use the regular excuses such as "im already inlove" with "it will make me lose a great friend" and if you can meet him another girl it will do the job completly.
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