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*hiannon3
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. He has two kids and so do I. I always find someone to watch my kids when he comes home. He works on the road. The problem is he never takes me out. He has family that can watch his kids. He never does. He never takes me to dinner or buys me anything. I deal with it the best I can. There is never any alone time. I feel like he takes me for granted. What do I say to him about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 May 2018):
 I think you need to talk to him about this. I am not sure if he is taking you for granted or not, he might just enjoy spending time in the house with you, plus if he doesn't see his children often then off course he is going to want to make the most of the time that he has home with them.
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reader, N91  +, writes (24 May 2018):
 Well have you ever told him you want to go out?
People aren’t mind readers so unless you say something then he thinks everything is fine. Why would he change something that seems to be working?
If you’re not happy, tell him.
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reader, Katie26 +, writes (24 May 2018):
I think you should share with him your feelings, politely without accusing him of taking you for granted. You'll never know, he may not realize that you long for time alone with him. Men cannot read minds nor read between the lines...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2018): Maybe he's cheap and just doesn't want to spend the money. You have to mention the fact that you'd like to go out and spend some time together. Now is the best time in the relationship to learn how to communicate and be honest with each other.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2018):
 Have you mentioned you would like more one-on-one time? To go out for dinners? And do some couples stuff?
You say he NEVER takes you out, so this has been the NORM since you started dating?
If so, how is that taking you for granted?
And IF he is on the road a lot NO WONDER he wants to also spend time with his kids, and who knows... it MIGHT be part of the custodial agreement that when he is HOME he has the kids!
However, if you feel like you are not a priority or you are taken for granted open your moth and TALK to him. He can't read your mind or guess how you feel.
And if nothing changes... end it and find someone who is better suited to your needs.
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