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anonymous
writes:I met a girl online and we've met in person on two occasions. We seemed to just click from the beginning and she even said she didn't understand why I was still single. We've spoken on the telephone at length between meetings, however following our second meeting she said she wanted space. She became all standoffish and her attitude with me on the phone changed. She snapped at me numerous times when I suggested she come over to my place. She then told me she needs space but didn't give me a timeframe. This happened only days after we met. I've been texting her in the meantime, but she has not indicated any willingness to continue seeing me. She hasn't told me how long she needs space and told me not to wait around because she doesn't know. She said that when she is ready she will probably only see me every other week. I keep texting her to tell her I'm here, just so she doesn't think I'm seeing other people. We got along so well, I don't understand why she is doing this. Does she like me? Can you please help me understand.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (2 August 2017):
If someone asks for space the last thing you need to worry about is them thinking you're seeing someone else because they don't care.
And the next time someone asks for space, give it to them! After only two dates there's no reason to hang on.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (1 August 2017):
No she is not interested. Stop texting and calling her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2017): Hey, if someone says gimme space; I walk and keep walking.
I don't get played like a sap. She had one date with you. She spoke out of politeness on the date; but asking for space means she's not that into you.
She may have felt uneasy on your date, and pretended to enjoy herself; or she's just stringing you along. Neither scenario is a good one.
If she's purposely stringing you along; it's because at least she knows you like her, and will probably spend money on dates. If you met online. She has other contenders and she's reviewing her options. That's nothing short of being a player. Swipe to the left!
Stop contacting her. You're being weird and aggressive. Not only that, you're trying too hard and being desperate. This allows women to take advantage of you; or they just get really scared of you.
My advice is not to contact her ever again, and to block her number. Sometimes women are vague, or don't give reasons. It's best to avoid women like that, they can mean trouble.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 August 2017):
 If someone tells you I need space? Why do you keep texting and calling?
No, mean no, OP.
And in this case, SHE isn't interested in you. And she isn't TREATING you in a very nice way either.
I would DEFINITELY leave her be 100%. No texting no calling and I would look elsewhere if you are looking for a GF.
And while telling you that she can't understand why you are single is a nice compliment - it doesn't mean SHE wants to be with you.
Wish her well and move on. Cut the contact if that is easier for you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (1 August 2017):
 She's not interested.
You didn't click as much as you thought or else she wouldn't be acting this way with you.
There could be a whole host of reasons why this has happened, but the one thing you need to take away from this and understand is that you're wasting your time if you keep trying to speak to her.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (1 August 2017):
 I can't help you understand but what is clear is that you can forget about going any further with this one. I don't think she could have made it any clearer.
Who knows why? Perhaps an old friend got in from out of town and she intends seeing more of him. Perhaps she has developed some illness and wants to concentrate on getting better.
She was kind enough to say she was surprised you were single - a nice compliment. But in her mind you are not for her. Sorry.
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