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writes:Hello,So this is a first for me. I started talking this guy online some, basically by accident, and we have talked more and more, spending hours on the phone, texting, and web cam. Hours and hours on web cam. It's unusual that I would get involved online like this. I have a lot of friends and I date guys locally too, but there seems to be this really strong connection. He has a lot of friends too, it's not like he's in a dark cave somewhere. We're just two normal people who somehow have made this connection and it's a connection we can't see ourselves letting go of. The other thing is he lives a couple of states away and we've talked about meeting up at some point. I just wonder will it be awkward? I'm pretty new to this type of thing. Also another thing is, I'm 23 and he's just 21 (I usually date guys in their mid to late 20s) , I practically feel like a "cougar." What about maturity level? But his smile and his voice and his laugh light up my day. Another this is I've cut back a lot on dating locally because of this. What do I do?
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Normally I would tell a person to run away from an online relationship (not really knowing who the guy is on the other side). But in your case, I say give it a shot but follow thes few suggestions:
1. Take a friend along (preferably a guy)
2. Meet in a public place (library, mall)
3. Do a background check (This can be as simple as a Facebook check or as complex as a police record check).
Just don't get yourself in a situation that you can't get out of. Safety should be your first concern.
Good Luck!
And keep us posted.
Jeff
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reader, veronika  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Just see where it goes, but don't rush into meeting up. It will probably feel right when the time comes. He's only two years younger, so I don't quite understand why you'd feel like a cougar.
Have you discussed a relationship with him? Be sure that's what you both want if you're thinking about it.
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reader, Vcristina62 +, writes (16 January 2010):
Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? If you have a great connection over the phone, meeting in person shouldn't be much different other than you can be physical. You guys already saw each other on webcam so you know that he is who he says he is. As far the age difference guys are naturally more imature then females. You should have a feel already of what his maturity level is after talking so long. Two years isn't much of a difference. If you say there's a deep connection go for it girl! If you two meet and decide not to go further atleast you'll know it wasn't ment to be. But long distance relationships are VERY hard to maintane especially age 23 and 21 because you two are at the party stage. But if you both can make arrangements and a plan to make it work I don't see why you wouldn't go for it
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