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writes:Right now I am sort of "seeing" this guy. We met on an adult personal site, and it was just suppose to be just casual sex, every so often. Well, we stopped talking for a bit, then we started talking again and then stopped and now, just in the past week or so, we have been talking more. Since this, we have developed "feelings" for one another. Even though we couldn't be more opposite, but they say "Opposites Attracted" right? I mean, there are somethings that he and I are compatable with, like some of our food likes, the things we like to do, and all kinds of things. The one major thing would be our sexuality compatablility. He just does things for me that way that no other guy has done for me before. It's just AMAZING.Anyway, there is a couple of things that have been "towing" at the back of my mind. For one, he is quite a bit older than me. I am 30 and he's 53, so that would make him twenty-three years older. I have no issuse with that and he also has no issuse with that at all. He doesn't act or even look like someone who would be. I really enjoy his company. The other thing is, is that we both aren't sure what to do here. Meaning that he's kind of confused with his feelings and what he would like and I am sort of on the same page as that. How would I convince him that I am different? That I would like to get to know him more, spend more time with him. He's afraid that with his schedule and his busy lifesyle, that he may not be able to give me everything he feels like I deserve. He is going to be going back to work as a truck driver. I told him that IF he wanted to take this to the next level, than I am prepared to wait. How do I tell him this and how do I convince myself of this too?Thanks for listeningkatrina Reply to this Question
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Even though you met on an adult dating site, things like falling in love with each other is quite normal. It happens all the time to other people.
One thing about age...it's just a number and don't let this stand in the way!
Just be careful and check into this guy to make sure he is not keeping you in the dark..just make sure that he isn't married, or has other girl friends
Take things one day at a time and see how you feel about each other a few months down the road, and don't stress out too much, epecially the age thing!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): Okay.....the age difference isn't necessarily an issue. If you enjoy one another's company, that is a good thing.
You should tell him, as you are telling us, that you'd like to get to know him better and spend more time. HOWEVER, he is a truck driver, which means he will be away for days (not sure how many in that job and for how long away) and has said he isn't sure he can give you everything you want, so you need to be aware of that. Sounds like you are, and you HAVE told him you're prepared to wait if he wants to take things to the next level.
I see though that YOU are not sure about it, because you ask how you can convince yourself.
The other thing is even though opposites sometimes find one another attractive, it DOESN'T, by itself, make for compatibility! There needs to be more than liking the same food, and having fun together! Things such as common goals for a relationship; sharing a similar outlook on life and having similar values. These are very important in real compatibility.
Hope this has given you a few guidelines to think about.
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