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writes:I have known this guy for over 3 years. The last 3 months we've been dating or whatever you want to call it. We both have kids so we only get to see each other once a week but when we do see each other, it's really only sex and then he leaves. I've asked him what his intentions were with me, just sex or a real relationship, and he said that he couldn't answer that question right now and that he just lets the chips fall where they may. We work together so it makes things even more complicated. I have really strong feelings for this guy but is it just sex to him? Is 3 months too early to confront him about what I want out of this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 When someone can't answer whether s/he wants more than sex with you, most likely s/he just wants sex.
I suppose you had feelings for him and that was why you consented to the sex. You were thinking there would be a relationship. I'm afraid he isn't of the same mind.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): This guy is just using you hun and taking you for a fool. Trust me, i've been in exactly the same situation and had to get rid of him in the end because it was doing my head in! You're worth way more than this chick! Tell him if he doesn't see you as a potential partner then it's over.
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reader, tux +, writes (6 November 2007):
 I would have to say my first thought is that he is just using you for his pleasure. I don't think he can answer your question because if he does, he will lose it. Honestly, I think he pretty much where the chips are laying now. If you wamt to pursue him further, try not having sex with him and then see where his chips lay. Chances are if my guess is correct he'll no longer be around to be with you. But if you really want to know where you stand with him, have time together with him that does not involve sex and that will answer your question to see if it's just sex or a relationship.
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