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writes:I am in a deep situation and I almost feel as if all hope is lost.I have been going out with my girlfriend for 1 year and 4 months now, and we've had our rough times, but worked out just about every problem, even the distance issue, because she is a Junior in High School and I am a College Student in Florida, 1200 miles from her. But we managed that very successfully. I have always adhered to her family's rules, even though some of them I find ridiculous, such as I am not allowed in the House if the parents are not home, I am not allowed to see her In PJ's, I am never allowed in her room, all plans have to be made in advance, no short notice stuff, I am rarely allowed over past 10pm and so on. About 9 months into our relationship, while I was home for a visit, I planned out a usual romantic dinner, and movie, after the movie, the moments under the stars and the beautiful moon felt right and her and I felt safe and trusting of one another and we had sex for the first time. I am not in this relationship for sex by any means, I love this girl with all my heart and I respect her in any way and matter, and I would never do anything to hurt her, or her feelings, and I always do my 110% best to make sure that she is happy and safe.Before we had sex, we had some small pre-sexual experiences, which I wish not to share. We only had sex since January about 7 times, only when the moments were absolutely right. I came home from college in May, and I’ve been spending time with her ever since then. About 3 days ago, her mother was using her computer, and somehow came across an old conversation that skype saved. I do not know why she went on skype from my girlfriend’s computer, but I will not make the assumption of her snooping around, because I just don’t know and I cannot make that Judgment. She read our conversation and was furious along with her father, understandably. What I do not understand, according to her parents, I do not exist, they do not wish to talk to me in any way, she is not allowed to see me, and her phone calls to me are limited to 10 minutes (her father checks the phone bill and even sets a timer on the kitchen clock). I want to talk to her father, explaining myself, explaining the situation, and resolve the issue, but I am unable to because they will not communicate with me. I am at a loss here, I cannot sleep at night, my days are disheartened, I do not take delight in the things I love doing the most, such as flying, and I need advice on how to safely and Happily resolve the issue, I do not want to lose her, she means the world to me. I am aware that her parents are shocked by this event, seeing as I am a 19 year old college student studying aerospace engineering and she is a 17 year old high school Junior, I just wish they also administered the situation in a way that I can converse with them. I honestly appreciate any help, or suggestions. Thank you so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe letter was torn apart and never read. I give up, they win, I do not want to continue this anymore, I cant, I've reached the bottom of my energy. She was my Highschool sweetheart, maybe destiny was not meant for us two...I will talk to her tomorrow about my decision.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (31 August 2007):
 you are welcome and i hope it all works out for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm ok, Im not too sure about the Prepaid phone because her mother is pretty watchful, especially now and I would not want for her to get in trouble. But I will hand write them a letter. Thank you
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (30 August 2007):
hey hun you are really going through a hard time with this girl. but for a man to stand by her all the time through all this she has got a good man! But any ways to the problem you are having. she is 17 yrs old almost 18 years old which i dont know how long it will be befor she is 18 but ill just say a year. you only have a yr to wait befor her parents can no longer tell her who she can and can not be with. maybe the 2 of you can get a part time job and save all the money you can, so you can get an apartment together, but intil then you will have to go by her familys rules. The 10 min phone calls are really rediculious, so why dont she go out and get a prepaid cell phone. like the verizon or even cingular. they have the phones in walmart or k-mart. they have free nights and i think verzion has the free weekends to but if you and her both go and get one like verizon you guys can talk all the time for free verizon to verizon . and her parents wont have to know that she has one and you can talk whenever with out a timer going off. The phone cards are like 15.00 and they last a while as long as she is only calling you and watch what she does with the time.
you said that her mom reads the convos. you guys talk about so why dont you just write a convo to your girlfriend but really ment for her parents like example: (your gfs name) I dont know why your parents dont like me and why they dont want to talk to me. I will never hurt you in any kind of way. ect. just write the sweetiest things to her that a parent would want to read just kind of wirte to your gf but also to her parents and put how you feel. or if you know her parents email addy. write to them and tell them how you feel if they dont want to talk to you then write them a letter and send it to them that way they know what you are feeling. well good luck and i hope i helped.
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