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writes:theres this guy that ive liked for ages, and we finaly went on a date, during this we made out it was so amazing, but since the date he just treats me as a friend and we don't even talk about wot we did. and now we r both back at college, we hardly ever get to see each other and wen ever we do we just say hi, we never have proper conversations any more. i just wanna know where i stand. ive tried 2 get over him but i can't i think of him 24 7 and i really do think im in love with him. so whats gonna happen please help me, have i got a chance with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lil_devil  +, writes (19 September 2007):
Ive been through this. He wont commit cause hes worried. Wat if sum1 better cums along and he misses his chance. Move on show him that he didnt have an effect on u. Then he will get worried bcause he thinjs he lost his fall back gal. well good luck! lil_devil g gd
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 September 2007):
 We always talk about getting over someone, what exactly is that. That's almost like saying, I will keep the good memories, and give back the bad. It doesn't happen like that. You can't get over him because you have unanswered questions. You have this question of "Why" as long as that question is there, you're stuck with him on your mind.
You mentioned you're at different schools which doesn't allow consistent contact. Let's look at this in a different way, than just brushing you off. What if, he would like to have more, you would like to have more, but the distance is keeping him from pursuing it. We hear about so many long distance relationships going into the tank. If you're friends, that may be a worry for him. Who wants to mess up a friendship over a long distance relationship.
I would talk to him. Guy will sometimes back off if they have such a great respect for you, and think that's what's best. I did the same thing. She has since got married. We had a 10 year age difference, I went to school, had a career. She was finding out what she wanted to do. The school she attended is half way across the U.S., I had feelings for her, I could feel she did too, but was waiting for me to make the first move. I had to let her go, because going to this school was her dream. I wouldn't have been a good person to interfere with what she was meant to do.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (19 September 2007):
 i'm not sure but the best thing to do is to talk to him. tell him your geeting mixed messages and you want to know where you stand. sometimes boys get scared of their feelings, he might be confused but its only fair to keep you in the picture.
and if he turns out to be like half of the male population and gives you the brush off, get a big bar of chocolate and move on realizing there are many more fish in the sea.
good luck.
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