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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey!! im really stuck and could do with some advice. i love my boyfriend (of a year), but recently we've been arguing alot. i havent seen him or about two weeks (cos im at uni) and when i said to him the other day that i had too much work to de and i couldnt see him..he got upset and started having a go. i know long distance relationships are hard, but im not sure if i want to be with him anymore, i love him, and things are fine when im home but i feel a bit tied down and cos im at uni i dont really need the stress of it. i love him and i know hes totally head over heals in live with me, but sometimes hes just too clingy and i think if i leave him its gina break his heart!!! im not 100% sure i want to break up with him..how do i know? please help me..i really don't know what to do!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): I would suggest that you meet up with him in person and tell him exactly what the problems are. For example, tell him that the arguments in particular are making you feel differently towards the relationship and that they eat away at the nice feelings you have for him. Tell him that if things don't change then you can't see the relationship working out but that you do want to try.
Once he has this opportunity to fix things, if he manages then you will probably be more sure about him, but if he does not improve then you will feel more confident and sure about breaking up with him.
It's important though you tell him clearly what it is that is making you unhappy. It's good for you, and it's good for him.
All the best with whatever you choose to do :)
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reader, ask paige +, writes (18 March 2007):
 well i think that as you said long distance relationships are hard and especially if u dont see them as much as you used to without a doubt it will be harder becuase he will miss you so i think you should sit down and talk to him tell him what you think of the situation tell him you love him and tell him he is being to clingy but you understand why hes doing it becuase he misses you and after a few weeks of taking a breather see then if u do still love him and still want to be in this relationship and if you dont dont worry about breaking his heart becuase at the end of the day relationships that end usually end with broken hearts and its better if he knows how you feel instead of him worrying about it all the time and that breaking his heart instead good luck just be honest and follow your heart love paige xx
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