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writes:I have been seen this girl (I am white she is nigerian), for a year now and we grew to love each other, I gave her everything and we joked together and the sex was amazing.I live with my parent at 29 (i know it sux but property in ireland is very expensive) and I would visit her apartment all the time. I am getting an apartment myself sonn now anyway.So during xmas she says to me "listen i want to take a break, i love you but I want to be sure I do it could realize this tomorrow next week or 2 months, I dont know" I paniced and asked so is it a break or break up and she said it would be better if we broke up for this.I said its the most ridiculous thing, I asked:did your friends put you up to this - nois it that you want someone else - noan ex-boyfriend - nofamily - no (but her mother might not approve).She says I really want to do this paul and i dont want you to be thinking of me because it will make it harder. I just need time to think you are the one and if you are I will ring you and if your single great and if not then i lost my chance.I begged with her to reconsider but she is set on this. Man I am broken up beyond words and am pretty much crying typing this. I keep thinking of all the good times and stuff and the pictures. I cant eat at all and I am constantly depressed.Sorry for this long message man I really am I just need to know what can I do man, what can I do.
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reader, prenezmoila  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 A break signifies she isn't ready. Breaks are really a way of testing how you'll react to a break-up. It could not be the case here, and I hope it isn't. Give her her space. She will appreciate that beyond anything else. If it falls apart, it falls apart. Life goes on. Find the girl out there who wants you and knows that you're right for her. Best of luck, mate.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (29 December 2008):
 oh thats not good at all. you need to tell her that you know shes the one for you and the idea of her with another guy is breaking you up inside. that you can wait for her to be sure if your the right one, tell her that you love her and that you will give one week to decide if she loves you enough to stay with you. if she dousnt come back after a week then your not the one she wants and you should move on, but if she dose come back then you will know that there is a good chance of things working out. but if you do this remember not to call her during that week while shes thinking. i wish you luck.
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