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30-35,
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writes:hello i have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and i love my girlfriend to pieces, we have regular sex, a fantastic connection, we have talked about marriage, and we love each other with all of our hearts. the only thing is i dont fully trust her anymore. the reason being that a year into our relationship somebody that my girlfriend knew from school (male) decided to attack our relationship and my girlfriend was very torn as to who she wanted to be with. i did not know this person since i didnt go to my girlfriend's previous school. she did fancy this person about two years previous but had never been out with him but she was genuinly torn even tho we have just had the best year of romance, sex and love that there ever could be. obviously this hurt me deeply that my girlfriend was seriously considering throwing away everything we worked so hard for.the one thing i hold precious are kisses, i only kiss my girlfriend and no-one else and my g/f knew how much kisses meant to me. a day before our anniversary she kissed this guy and this broke my heart, two days later she did it again and smashed my heart. still i tried to move on but every now and then it always haunts me, my g/f flirt a lot as well and always tends to ignore me when we meet her past fancies, she always says shes sorry but there is a huge gaping hole where the trust used to be, shes off to uni this year...i am not, i am so worried, how do i overcome this
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Nothing last forever, Life-Death. Relationship-Break up.
Don't worry about it, if it's going to happen it's going to happen no matter what.
What worries do is actually kills beautiful present moment that you live with her. That could affect the outcome of the relationship as well (if she feels trap, she's going to leave).
She doesn't belong to you, and you don't belong to her. You guys agreed to be with each other. Since nobody's been forced into the relationship, why would someone cheat?
Yes she did kiss someone else, but what can you do about it? Nothing! Why? Because you love her! You know it! I bet you couldn't leave her even though you'd would try, that's why you forced yourself to forget what she did even though it was considered sacred in your book.
To me, the greatest act of love is forgiveness. If you are able to forgive someone, even if it truly hurt, it shows that you love that person. You! Did exactly that, you know are rare that is these days? You're a great guy!
If you don't trust her, why don't you leave her and find somebody that you can trust? Because you can't! Then why the worry? Let her go where her heart pleases, for now it's with you that she wants to be with. Accept it and enjoy it to the fullest while it last.
Trust is important part in a relationship but it must NOT come a source of worry.
Sorry if I seemed harsh at time, I just wouldn't want to find out that a great guy like you would leave his girl because of a trust issue.
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (28 July 2008):
How old is your gf? Around your same age? Man its bound to happen, its how women are, especially at those ages. She is not intentionally trying to hurt you, she just is young and doesnt really know what she wants.
My best advice to you, is to let her go.
You can try to maintain the relationship, just run with it, but it will probably come to an end anyways.
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