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writes:Me and my boyfriend really love eachother but the thing is that we cannot be together because of his religion. He is a Muslim, his parents are cool with it just not the rest of his family like uncles, cousins all those people and they all go to our school, my mum doesnt mind it but i can tell she hates it she hides it. So we have to hide our relationship and its starting to hurt me, like when i walk past him at school we cant say hi or hug or anything, because in there religion theres no girlfriends, no smoking, no drinking nothing, i just dont no what to do anymore. We both love each other but we cant be together.Can you please help me!!
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reader, Loverboy01  +, writes (1 August 2010):
I'm a guy, and im on the same position as you, my girl and me, we just broke up yesterday :(, we both love each other, a lot! she even told me that im her dream guy, but we cant be together cuz of her family, we are from same country but different religion, so all im doing right now is, to keep hoping, and keep trying, cuz to me this is not the end, and i'll say the same here, if he chooses family over you, say GOOD BYE to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): i would advice you two to think it over first, i mean you could be friends or than friends religion cant hinder that one. But if your thinking being together, like intimately, i would think twice. Both of you will live as outcast by both your families. As long as their is no binding relationship bet. you that would pass. Be friends.be close to each other.Let your families trust the both of you that you can handle yourselves without breaking their rules, and when both of you have jobs, can afford an estate of your own. Then decide, and one has to give up his or her religion. But it doesn't mean you give up your belief and faith. just for formalities....for the marriage rites..ok? i hope i helped.
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reader, ..BETTYBEE..  +, writes (16 March 2008):
Your Still young, but if he means so much to you that everytime you see him your heart beats and you get butterflies.
You should go for it, if your serious, if he is also, you can take the chance but if things dont go the right way you expected then you will think back and realize youve made that mistake, well mistakes are there to be made hun.
Follow your heart see where it takes you. x
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reader, Stroller +, writes (16 March 2008):
 If you sacrifice your happiness for your family - or for anyone else - I can promise you a pretty shitty life.
Who cares what anyone else thinks? You two _can- make a go of this - I can't promise it'll always be easy, but some sacrifices are worth making. If this guy has chosen his family - and the conventions of his family's third-world home - over you, then wave him a merry goodbye.
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