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writes:How do I break up with someone that I live with? My boyfriend and I have been together for thwo years now. I think he's a great person but I no longer want to be with him. I know I should just go, but as we live together, and I don't have anywhere I can go straight away, what do I do? My mum is too far away from work to live with her, and I don't really know anyone around here. How should I end things? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 Slowly. I would start to tell your partner about your feelings. Firstly you would want to move out of the bedroom, maybe onto the sofa so that you dont have to pretend to be his girlfriend any more.
After the move from the bedroom, try and keep things friendly between him and you. This means while you are still under the same roof, do not start flirting with other guys or dating another guy. DO NOT bring any new men home. DO NOT start doing things like staying out late and partying. I know once you break up your business is your own, but unfortunately that will not make for a good living atmosphere. Put up boundries after the break up to help with the fact that he can no longer need to know where you are and who you speak to. This will be traumatic for him at first, but its like weaning a baby from the the tit, to the bottle and finally to a cup.
You will need to start actively looking for another flat. Possibly a shared apartment with other people, maybe just a shared room. You could start now, but if you are still his partner and looking to move out this will just cause problems.
Hope things work out for you,
HonningKanin
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