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writes: hi i am a 24 year old female. lately i have been feeling very lonely. my problem being i have very few friends and the ones i do have i have to do all the running just to keep them. my partner and i have been together for a few years and i moved to be closer to him in the past two years. we now share the same group of friends and lately we have both noticed that we are been left out of many nights out. we often have to invite ourselves along. the biggest problem is that our friends are nearly all family members or related in some way. they are very clannish and like to do everything together. i feel at this stage we are fighting a loosing battle. we recently got engaged and wanted to go out celebrating but nobody else seemed to want to celebrate with us. i feel that it we must be doing something wrong. could you offer some advise on how to revive our friendships or how to make new friends.miss lonely
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 January 2006):
 I am unclear here if the friends are members of your fiances family or a seperate family. If they are members of your fiances family then I wonder if for some reason that they have not shared with you they dissaprove of the relationship. Your fiance may need to address this if this is the case. Firstly find out the reason and then deal with it accordingly.
In any other scenario one solution might be to pick the friend who is closest too you who you can trust and take them into your confidence, tell them how you feel and see what that conversation produces. As to making new friends there are numerous ways. Networking at work would be one way but other ways might be to look in the local paper and see if there are any ads for social events for couples or clubs in an area you both enjoy. Hope that helps.
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