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writes:What should I do?It all started when my boyfriend rented a room in a house were his exgirlfriend lived. He said he was going to find another place as soon as he could since he did not know she was living there already (this was 6 months ago). His exgirlfriend was my friend and she was upset to hear that I was prgnant with his child. She had told me that she was going to get me back for it.I just found out that my boyfriend might be having a child with his ex girlfriend. He said that he had slept with her once a few months ago and hasn't repeated. We just had our first child about 3 weeks ago. I love him so much and I don't want to loose him and he seems sorry for what he did. I really just don't know what to do. I feel with him not in my life I'm empty but I fear that I will not be able to forgive and forget. help me
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reader, de8685 +, writes (13 October 2008):
de8685 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks your right i really don't think I can over the fact that while I was pregnant he went behind my back even if it was a drunk night. For the past week I've been trying to distract myself. It hurts because I love him so muchand even though I try to distract I take the road that passes his house pump gas at the station at 430am were he pumps gas every morning just to be able to see his face and staying home with my daughter is a constant reminder of how stupid I was to believe that maybe for the first have a family. I guess some people walk under the black cloud
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reader, Misguided  +, writes (3 October 2008):
Let me get this straight. You just had a baby with your boyfriend, who cheated on your with his ex who was also you friend at one point...and now she might be pregnant right? Are you sure it's his and she's not jus claiming it is?
If it is his, oh wow, Sweetie. You are in quite a pickle. First of all you need to know if you stay in this situation, whether or not you created a life with him and have a child with him, you will resent him for what he did. And everytime you see her with his baby, it's a dig at you, just like she wanted.
Then you need to ask yourself, why he did what he did. If he loved you and cared about you and your baby, he wouldn't have strayed. Sopeaking from somene who recently discovered she wasn't enough for her boyfriend, I can relate.
I know you love him and you don't want to lose him, but you are a mother now, and you have to think of your baby now too. Do you think your man will be a good role model for that baby...especially when the child is old enough to know they have a sibling the same age, from a different mommy?
I know you have a lot to handle. I hope this helps you think your decision thought. Good luck.
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