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writes:Ok i have posted before but i am desperate now.i have been with my bf for 15months.. i was everything to him now i feel like a nothing to him. He says daily he loves me and im wondering if it is just habit.. or friendship love or what1. never texts me at all anymore (used to be sweet romantic texts)2. used to call me amazing, his earth angel, etc (now i barely get a sweety)3. Seems overall bored with me (i asked he says he isnt)4. if i ask whats going wrong with our relationship instead of discussing it he says im moody and he speak to me when im out my mood.5. Used to do special things to make me feel special (never does nothing at all anymore)6. Struggles to discuss our future.7. States he is fine its me that has the problem.6. Never gets intimate anymore, even tho i tried various things, even in a joking context he dont bother he just rolls eyes.Anyone please help i cannot sleep im feeling really depressed, i just want to be back to how it was i will do anything i love him that much. Am i fighting a one sided battle? Am i wasting my time?
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reader, itssimplyme +, writes (3 October 2008):
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We have talked and he says its my moods and nagging that make him like it.
but if he wasnt like it in first place i wouldnt have cause to ask and stuff.
It seems a vicous circle
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reader, Faybelline +, writes (3 October 2008):
 It sounds as though you think about this a lot; the more you think about it, the worse it can get sometimes. You've obviously tried talking to your boyfriend about it but, the problem is, the more you bring it up and ask, the more it could push him away.Your boyfriend might have, genuinly, not realise there is anything wrong; he could just be uncomfortable talking about it as many guys can be. Sometimes, when we've been with someone for a long time, it can feel like the excitement has gone out of the relationship. That doesn't mean you can't get it back or that you love each other any less though.If you want him to show he loves you, it goes both ways. Don't wait for him to do things for you; take the initiative and do things for him to show you love him.If he doesn't appreciate this and things don't change between you then you do need to talk about it. If he won't listen, write what you want to say down but try not to make it sound like you're accusing him; just tell him how you feel and how you would like things to be.
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