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writes: Ok so if it was finished with you and your boyfriend, but you both knew you'd get back together, and you did just this week. Would you be kinda odd if he wanted to be with the boys tonight rather than you??? Well thats my story, we finished sunday... said we'd make up tuesday... but only saw him wednesday 4a while, was meant to see him tonight and I gets a text asking if I mind if he went out for a few drinks with his friend......
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 I don't think it is a problem him seeing his friends, he even sent you a text asking you if you would mind,that to me sounds considerate. It's only one night after all. Why don't you go out with your friends? just because you have got back together it does not mean you have to be together continually, it is good to have your own space and relax doing your own thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Thats ok in my book but i know it doesnt sound good in yours. Blokes can have mates and so can girls, so let him have some space to go out with them and why dont you go out with yours. Make sure you have to some boys free time at least once a week, dont be there all the time for him. Just play it a bit more casual and stop running after him. Have fun. When you are not running after him he will sit up and start taking notice and then he may start doing the running after you. If things cool off then walk, simple, dont be a doormat for a bloke. They will certainly walk all over you and come back to clean their shoes.
take care
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reader, Manya  +, writes (29 February 2008):
Actually, I CAN see how you'd be hurt. Perhaps, for three days you anticipated a joyful reunion, & only got to see him briefly... And then he wants to see his boys instead of running to you!? (Earlier in the week, you were probably a total wreck thinking it was over, over, over!!) And then a
text message, not even a phone call. Yes, I can see, it's painful!
I hope, however, by the time you read these messages, it's been resolved and you see that he really means it, wants to stay with you and improve things!! Try to pull yourself together and perhaps go shopping and buy yourself a new blouse or something!! Have faith!!
Love,
Manya
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 you broke up with him for 3 days? come on hun its not as if you were apart for 3 months. so what if he wants to spend time with his mates - its not as if he loves you less or anything is it?!! you cant get annoyed with him every time he wants to spend time with someone else - you'll smother him. respect the fact that he wants to do his own thing - and text you to let you know also. you should be comfortable enough to let him be for a night. however, if this behaviour does happen all the time and you find him ditching you alot, then talk to him. but one night with friends doesnt really mean anything. so relax!! email me if you want more help xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): You know, this might just be a nasty coincidence that he's been invited to go out with his mates. Or maybe he thinks you wont break up in future if you give each other a little more space. Try and respect his decision, but if this kind of behavior carries on, let him know how you feel. You guys obviously love each other, so talk to each other honey. Good luck :]
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