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writes:I'm trying to find out whether I'll regret ending my relationship (again!). My partner and I split up in February - this year after been seeing each other for just over 4 years although we didn't live together or anything. We each have children from previous relationships and he is also 7 years older than me.It was my decision to split up in February as things just hadn't been right since around September. We had drifted apart somewhat and I think to a degree it was me that changed over a period of time. We got together quite soon after my husband and I separated and I'm not sure if that has anything to with it - in the fact that I am a stronger person etc now.Anyway, he kept texting me to try and make another go of it - and I suppose I felt a duty to give it another go so we started seeing each other again early September.Since then though, no matter how I try, things just aren't how they once were. That time apart has changed things even more. There is no chemistry between us at all anymore and we're stuggling for conversation sometimes. I'm also finding it hard to want to spend time with him - we're just going out on a Saturday night - and it's not bothering me.I think I'm sure the relationship has hit the end of the road but how will I really know? I can't say I'm afraid of being single because that doesn't worry me. I keep thinking he's a good, honest guy and should I keep trying to see if the feelings come back? We just don't seem to have anything in common anymore and the physical attraction for him just isn't there anymore. Has anyone else been in the same situation? Thanks.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Hi - from what you say, the love and attraction has gone. Sounds like it's only conscience or politeness or a loyalty holding you together in a relationship. I think this is one of the reasons why people say best to get over one fully before you start on the next. You are just not fully in touch with your feelings.
Good luck
Richard
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