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36-40,
*ilmisskay
writes:last year i broke up with my bf, after we went to my friends wedding as mates, but i still really liked him, one of my friends bridesmaids, her mate, kept tellin everyone how much she fancied my ex which drove me mad. recently and slowly me and my ex have started to get back together but this girl still texts him every night, late at night, thou nothing ever happened between them an he says they are just friends, i still see her as a threat and it winds me up that she still texts him, i know its selfish but i wouldnt mind if she didnt fancy him so much, what do i do?
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (3 December 2007):
 he is entitled to have girls as friends but my ex once said to me "a guy will never have a girl as a friend unless he wants to shag her" and being that he was a guy, i guess ther is some truth to it. i'm not trying to put doubt in your mind, i'm just saying, guys don't need girls as friends, they choose to have them. they need their guy mates to go out and have a laugh with, get drunk and slag us girls off too, but they don't have things in common with girls. if your bf loves you, respects you, wants you to be content in the relationship he'll recognise his behaviour towards the other girl is wrong. if he's honest with himself he's just flattered with the attention. back to my ex, i found a girl in his phone (there were a few) who said he was mates with, then i found out he'd been sleeping with her, so it kinda made his theory of no girl friends without wanting a shag, correct.
maybe explain in a disheartened manner that you can't handle the thought of this other girl coming between the two of you, and if he wants to continue the relationship, he'll need to decide if this girls friendship means more. explain that you don't mind him having friends of the opposite sex, as long as they are just that, friends.
best of luck.
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