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*errybeth
writes:My bf and I have been going out for almost a year now, and we've gone through some dynamic ups and downs. About 6 months ago, I decided to do something that he told not do or else he would be break up with me. I didn't cheat, but to him, it felt like it. I lost his trust, but he still gave me a 2nd chance. Yesterday night we had an argument about me going overseas to work and vacation after I graduate University. He said that he knows he couldn't and wouldn't go out with me if I were to be gone. That since what happend, he's not sure he can trust me. He scared that if I do go, and our LDR doesn't work out, he would of wasted his time. When I believe that if it came to that, I would look at our time as well spent, loving and living. I want to see and explore the world, and he's happy with staying at home. We both love each other very much, but we both want and belive in 2 different things. We're only 19... so how do we know we won't change?We're about to break up.. or if anything broken up already. I don't know if I should just let it happen or fight for us to be together. Should I still try to convince him otherwise? Can I ever gain his trust back? Please help !
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reader, deepandmeaningful  +, writes (3 December 2007):
Hi hunni, Im sorry for your troubles. Firstly i have to say that you have to be your own person and im sorry to say that if he cant deal with that then he isnt the one for you. I understand that you both love each other but love is all about give and take and im sorry but he has to let you go. I think what you want to do is gr8 believe me if you dont do it now you never will and its gr8 that you have ambitions to travel. Unfortunately i dont have any real advice for you as to what to do but you cant give up on your dreams and as i already said if he loves you the way he says he loves you he will let u go n grow. It does sound like he is a bit insecure about your relationship but i do hope that you both can get over this. Good luck with your future and i hope you make the right decision for you as i feel if you didnt do what you wanted to do you would resent him for the whole relationship. As i said good luck and i do hope another persons viewpoint on this helps.
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