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writes: Hello! Me and my boyfriend no longer make love like we used to. He doesn't touch me, kiss me, hug me anymore. He idea of lovemaking now is to just climb on top, it last about 5 sec. What can I do to spark up our sex life? And does he love me any more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2005): if i was you i would find me anouther man as fast as i could.
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reader, pops +, writes (20 August 2005):
Its not you that has the problem. Get another boyfriend!
Seriously, why would you tolerate this kind of behavior for an instant? I had a secretary who told me she routinely kicked guys out of bed if they didn't satisfy her, literally. They were always shocked, and amazed, but she sent them packing, and if she ran into them in a bar, it was the guy who hung his head in shame, not her! He doesn't respect you anymore, and that is why he is treating you like a tool of masturbation. Drop him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2005): It really sounds like he's gotten very lazy, indifferent and unloving. You could try fixing the problem by getting creative with your sex life. Don't feel shame or fear when asking for what you want. Let him know what you want. Claim your right and voice your needs. Being sexually satisfied and feeling wanted by your partner is a legitimate and healthy part of a relationship. It takes two to makes the relationship work-an equal balance.
But if talking doesn't work and one of you (him) isn't there or involved, you inevitably will break up. If he's not displaying affection (hugs, kisses, etc) outside of the bedroom-it may be best to just end the relationship. It's his problem and he has to own up to it but it will be hard for you not to take it personally. Best to move on..before his indifference erodes your self-esteem. Good luck & take Care, dear
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reader, pops +, writes (19 August 2005):
Its not you that has the problem. Get another boyfriend!
Seriously, why would you tolerate this kind of behavior for an instant? I had a secretary who told me she routinely kicked guys out of bed if they didn't satisfy her, literally. They were always shocked, and amazed, but she sent them packing, and if she ran into them in a bar, it was the guy who hung his head in shame, not her! He doesn't respect you anymore, and that is why he is treating you like a tool of masturbation. Drop him!
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